| Spanking Art & Story Sites: |
| You've seen SpankArt's delightful work scattered about various Drawings Galleries on this website. Does viewing his spanking art and others like it make you want to try your hand at creating some original images of your own? If so, SpankArt's website, A Spanking Art Genre is for you! It is full of useful pointers for beginning artists with tips on drawing in general, and on drawing of juvenile spankings in particular. |



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PHOEBE'S ABUSEMENT PARK [closed]
Original
art by Bee Bee (Phoebe) and spanking images from Little Audrey, Richie
Rich and other comics. If anyone has a current url for this site,
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| A nice Japanese spanking anime-style site by Makoto. |
| More original spanking art from Japan. |
| A boy spanking story site. |
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Juvenile and adult spanking stories
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Noriko's Story Archive(down)
I pulled her close to me. "Cesya, why are you being spanked?"
"Cause."
My niece strained the meaning of exasperation sometimes.
"Because why, Cesya Kate?"
"'Cause I went outside and broke my promise an' 'cause I rode my bike when
I
shouldn't have."
I nodded and gently pulled her hands away from her backside. I positioned
her
over my lap and she offered no resistance. Lifting up her t-shirt, I rubbed
her
bare bottom until she relaxed.
Finally, I raised my right hand and brought it down to the center of her
right
cheek with a thunderous clap.

Have you ever wondered whether or not that gorgeous actress or other female celebrity was spanked as a child, and if so, how? Then this is the site for you!
Debbie Boone (pop singer):
"Spankings, especially from my father, were
not just a perfunctory pat on the behind. He meant for us to remember them
and used
a slipper, belt, or anything else that stung.
The number of whacks on our bare bottoms depended as much on our reaction
to being
caught as the offense itself. We could expect
more if we had lied or talked back."
"Often with tears still fresh in our eyes,
[my three sisters and I] would go up to my room and compare war wounds.
Bending over, we'd back up to the mirror to see whose backsides had the
reddest marks. Mine were always the worst, mainly because I had the most
sensitive skin."
"Another time Laury was paddled when I deserved
it came when we were playing "truth or dare." The game involved a choice
between answering any embarrassing questions
the other players could think up or accepting a dare to do crazy or sometimes
dangerous things. One summer at camp, I made
others eat horse manure and even tried it myself. At home, I had been known
to
dare my sisters to jump from tall trees or
rooftops."
"This time I made Laury take off her clothes
and ride her bicycle around the driveway. She was only nine, nothing too
obscene, but
there she went after we taunted her sufficiently.
Our family home is right on a busy intersection, and Laury had to ride
around our
circular driveway and out onto the sidewalk—five
times in all. Lindy and I hid in the bushes, laughing hysterically,
especially
when a tour bus drove by to show out-of-state
visitors "the homes of the stars.""
"Laury was tooling around on her fourth trip,
when our mother came back from a shopping trip. The car screeched to a
halt in the
driveway, and Laury was grabbed off that bike
almost quicker than we knew it. Lindy and I stifled our laughter as we
watched
Laury's bare behind disappear through the
front door under my mother's strong right arm."
"I never said a word to protect Laury. She
had once told me she'd rather take the punishment than watch me get paddled.
That was
fine with me. I figured at the time that if
she was that dumb, I wouldn't stand in her way. Today, I recognize that
Laury wasn't
dumb. What I mistook as stupidity was really
the seed of warm sensitivity and compassion for other people."
I didn`t always do this. Indeed I was a thoroughly normal, boisterous easily-bored child, who would risk the odd lie if it covered a minor transgression. And it was the lie that engendered the greatest thrashing.
It was wartime and sugar was rationed. A bowl of this forbidden delight sat in the middle of the table while my mother fetched some cakes from the kitchen.
A quick lick of my finger, a quick dip in the gorgeous sweetness and all was as normal when my mother returned. Except that there suddenly appeared a gaping, glaring crater in the middle of the forbidden food, clear evidence of a crime, clear evidence of my guilt.
But I denied all knowledge. So now it was two crimes - stealing and lying. There was to be no discussion of the matter. Retribution was immediate and memorable. I got the slipper on a bare backside."
So I was pulled up in an assembly in front
of the entire school by one of the nuns, to be made an example of, and
she bent me over in front of 600 students, I was the new girl - I only
knew two, bent me over and whipped me on my little pantaloons. Most embarrassing,
it was very tough.
Apologizing profusely, Mother bid them good-bye and steered me into another room, one stiff finger between my shoulder blades.
"Take down your pants," she commanded, and produced a wooden yardstick from her cupboard of sewing materials. "Bend over!" She was not fooling.
So far as I knew, few people had inspected my bottom bare. It was not my most impressive feature, and my instinct always was to hid it. I was mortified to be hunched over, staring at a woodenfloor with my nude bottom upended.
Her yardstick fell with a sharp thwack. It really didn't sting, but I didn't laugh and didn't straighten up. It was ineffective punishment; my bottom, then and now, made me the original dead-end kid. The second time her stick cracked in two, sending the broken end clattering across the floor. I turned and peered up. Mother was staring at the shattered stub still clutched in her hand, her eyes glistening.
Slowly I eased off her lap and pulled up my panties. She had started crying silently, so I put my arms around her and nestled one cheek close against her chin. In a moment she dropped the broken stub to the floor and put her arms around me, tears dampening both her face and mine. The moment was a watershed, in more ways than one. We remained in our embrace a long time, silent symbolism of the love and sense of partnership which would characterize our lifelong relationship. It was my first spanking from her, but not the last."
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SPANKING DISCUSSION BOARD [down]
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MORE MEMORIES OF CHILDHOOD SPANKINGS [down]
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Gauis Marius, the
creator of Glory Bee, is an exciting new spanking artist who
draws in the tradition of mainstream children's comic books of the
40's and 50's - where the child heroine as often as not finds herself face
down across an adult lap getting her panties warmed in the final panel.
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this bibliography can contain every book in which somebody gets a slap
on the behind or a threat of a slap or a spanking. I tried to include those
books with scenes which would appeal to somebody as obsessed as I am. I
had a slight prejudice towards classics, Twain gets in for the Becky Thatcher
episode which probably wouldn't have merited mention if it had been by
a lesser writer. I am a purist, I tried to steer away from what could be
called beatings or whippings of slappings rather than spankings. Like most
of us, I am a glutton for details, I want to read about lowered panties,
rolled up sleeves, kicking, begging, and bright red bottoms."
[Below is just a small sample. There's lots more where these came from. - HP]
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SPANKING MEMORIES MESSAGE BOARD (closed)
| "I love spring time when it's warm enough for
my neighbors to open up their windows and doors to the outside air.
"Two weeks ago my next door neighbor spanked one of her kids. Since both kids are in the first and second grade I couldn't tell if it was the boy or the girl that was getting the spanking. But, for a good minute I strained to listen to someone's bottom getting tanned."
"when i was young, i got spanked often by my mother, it was normal back then. one time i got my sunday best messy after church, she pulled me to the bench in the park, lifted up my dress, pulled down my panties, and pulled me over [her] knee, then she spanked my bare bottom good and hard, i was 6 i think then, as i got older she used a hairbrush , but always bare botttom..." |
| This is a new site which will feature juvenile spanking art images. They need art submissions! Send your artwork to lil_red_bottom@yahoo.com. |

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If you enjoyed these exerpts, click here for more selected passages from the Childhood Spanking Memories forum.
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THE LIBRARY OF CONGRESS
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(1) "Maude's Naughty Little Brother" (1900). With her father away, Maude is seated at a small dinner table as she awaits the arrival of a gentleman caller for what she obviously hopes will be a quiet and romantic meal. The man arrives, and he joins Maude at the table. Unbeknownst to them, Maude's naughty little brother ties one end of a piece of rope to the man's coattails, and the other end to the tablecloth. Hiding under the table, he eagerly awaits the results of his mischief. To the surprise of all three of them, Maude's father returns home, and is outraged by the presence of the young man. He hurls his valise at the scoundrel, who tries to make his escape out the door. As he flees, he not only pulls the tablecloth and all the dinnerware off the table, but even overturns the table itself. After chasing Maude's caller out the door, the father turns his attention to his son, who lost the benefit of his hiding place when the table was overturned. Seizing the boy and bending him over, he gives him a vigorous spanking of about a dozen blows, as the youngster frantically struggles and attempts to escape. If the above link's format won't play for you, try here or here. (2) "Buster's Dog to the Rescue" (1904). Buster Brown is in the kitchen with the cook, who has just finished baking some delicious treats, which she has placed in a basket. She puts the basket on the top shelf of a closet, and adamantly warns Buster to keep his hands off the goodies. As soon as she leaves the kitchen, of course, Buster sets a long step ladder in front of the closet, and begins to climb toward his objective. In the midst of his ascent of the ladder, his mother enters the room and discovers him in that compromising position. She takes him over to a chair, on which she seats herself. Positioning him across her lap, she then proceeds to spank him about six or eight times. After administering this punishment, she ties one end of a rope around the waist of the sobbing boy, and the other end to a table. (Apparently, bits of rope were considered highly amusing by early film makers. Unfortunately, it takes considerably more to amuse moviegoers these days.) In any event, anchored to the table as he is, it seems that the basket of bakery goods now is beyond the reach of Buster, and indeed it is. However, it is NOT beyond the reach of Buster's dog, Tige. Buster sends Tige up the ladder, and the dog, holding the basket in his mouth, carries it down the ladder. He brings the basket to Buster, and the dog and young master then share their ill-gotten gains. If the above link's format won't play for you, try here or here. To view both films, first click on "American Memory" at the Library of Congress website. For (1), then enter "Maude's Naughty Little Brother" as the search term. For (2), enter "Buster's Dog to the Rescue" as the search term, and then click on "Buster Brown series." "Buster's Dog to the Rescue" is part 1 of the 5 short films you will find in the series. For both (1) and (2), various viewing options are available; I got the best results using the MPEG format, and I recommend that you try that one first. (Thanks to Jason for discovering
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| Spanking fiction by Breanna Carter. |
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| This is a Japanese site with */f spanking artwork, gif animations, shockwave animations and more, all from spanking artist, Kitora. |
Spanking at Home and at School

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Ann, early in her career
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fiction and a little non-fiction about Male/Male discipline, ie. the spanking
of boys, male teens and adults by other males. These stories are in all
styles and cover the entire range of discipline scenarios, from the use
of belt, switch, paddle or slipper at home, or cane, birch and tawse at
school, through judicial and military whippings to fun spanking games and
consensual S&M relationships." However, some stories do feature
female spankers and even the occasional juvenile female spankee. Exerpts
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Childhood spanking memories by Lynx.
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"It hurts
and it's painful inside - it's like
breaking
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Author Diana Halvorsen and her
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THANKS
BUT NO SPANKS
Physical
punishment only hurts kids, study argues

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Christian
Crusaders Go to BattleOver Spanking
Tools
of discipline horrify some of faithful
"The Rod" is designed give Christian home
schooled children very severe "faith based"spankings.
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By Rebecca When you made me bend over
When repeatedly the sound
When you made me hold you close
When each day that this continued
(You did it to Jesus.)
And the King will tell them,
Matthew 25:40
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OPEN LETTER TO ROY LESSIN
- AUTHOR OF "SPANKING: WHY, WHEN, HOW."
By Beth F.
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Roy's daughter Lydia was a
playmate of Beth's as a child.
Please
Don't Spank Or Slap Your Children
ByKatharine O.
Katharine at age 10, with
her brother.
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Non-abusive
"Loving Spankings" Messed Me Up For Life
By Carol
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| Tongue in cheek, the author writes, "I am nearly ashamed to admit it, but she actually struck us. Not once, but each time we had a mind of our own and did as we pleased. That poor belt was used more on our seats than it was to hold up Daddy's pants. Can you imagine someone actually hitting a child just because she disobeyed?" |

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| No other site on the web goes into such great detail explaining exactly how to give a child a spanking. For example, the author writes, "The pants can either be taken down to the ankles, to the knees (halfway down), or to just below the buttocks, although the latter is less advisable. (It obstructs the spanking "sit spot," see below, besides, taking the pants a bit lower than absolutely necessary increases the ritual aspect of the baring.) They can also be removed completely, then they won't be dangling somewhere. Pants are best taken down just before the child gets into position. For girls who wear dresses or skirts, the skirt can simply be turned up after the girl is over the parent's lap." |

| "Find an armless chair which, when you sit in it, your thigh is above the child's knee, ideally at about the middle of the child's thighs. Take the child's left wrist in your right hand and take him/her to your selected chair. Sit down, with the child on your right side. For this to work, you MUST spread your knees. The child's weight will be supported on your lap, and by spreading your knees, you gain stability. Transfer the child's wrist to your left hand and pull him/her over your lap. Pull him/her to your left, and lean, if you must. The child has to lean forward against your right thigh, and once you've pulled his/her center of gravity past your thigh, he/she will "trip" over your right thigh and instinctively will catch himself/herself with his/her right hand on your left thigh. He/she will now be lying across your lap, with his/her feet off the floor. Now, use your left hand to hold his/her upper body. The right hand, of course, is occupied with [slapping] the now positioned bottom." |
Figure 2. Spanking with a relaxed hand.
| "If you have ever played congas, bongos, tennis or squash, you will know what it means to keep your wrist flexible. Keep your four fingers together and relaxed, too. Note that it will be mainly your fingers that do the work, not your palm. Your thumb will not participate much, so you can move it a bit out of the way. Concentrate on where and how your four fingers make contact with the child's bottom." |

| This page contains a variety of links to soundfiles and fiction related to the prospanking views of the author, (who apparently doesn't worry about the "corrupting" influence of "absolute power" if it involves how he dominates his children, but who became very concerned as soon as the government took issue with the bruises on his daughter's behind.) Enjoy the links, but please, for your children's sakes, don't raise your kids his way... |
| Exerpt from Little House In The Big Woods By Laura Ingalls
Wilder:
Aunt Lotty had gone, and Laura and Mary were tired and cross. They were at the woodpile, gathering a pan of chips to kindle the fire in the morning. They always hated to pick up chips, but every day they had to do it. Tonight they hated it more than ever. Laura grabbed the biggest chip, and Mary said: "I don't care. Aunt Lotty likes my hair best, anyway. Golden hair is lots prettier than brown." Laura's throat swelled tight, and she could not speak. She knew golden hair was prettier than brown. She couldn't speak, so she reached out quickly and slapped Mary's face. Then she heard Pa say, "Come here, Laura" She went slowly, dragging her feet. Pa was sitting just inside the door. He had seen her slap Mary. "You remember," Pa said, "I told you girls you must never strike each other." Laura began, "But Mary said-" "That makes no difference," said Pa, "It is what I say that you must mind." Then he took down a strap from the wall, and he whipped Laura with the strap. Laura sat on a chair in the corner and sobbed. When she stopped sobbing she sulked. The only thing in the whole world to be glad about was that Mary had to fill the chip pan all by herself. At last, when it was getting dark, Pa said again, "Come here, Laura." His voice was kind, and when Laura came he took her on his knee and hugged her close. She sat in the crook of his arm, her head against his shoulders and his long brown whiskers partly covering her eyes, and everything was all right again. |
| Exerpt from A
Washington Post story.
When he climbed the walnut staircase and turned to his left, Maria was waiting. The father told Maria to take her clothes off and prepare for her "strikes." There would be seven, two for each commandment she broke. The final strike would be spared because God says have mercy. "Get on your knees," he said, without raising his voice, "in a praying position." The little girl, who still wears pigtails, knelt beside her white canopy bed. "She had on her panties and training bra," her mother recalls. Her father lifted his belt and it came down on her seven times. She yelled and she covered her bottom to break the strikes, but her hands did no good to ease the pain. |
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Speaking of her childhood, 22 year old Ruth writes,
"My mother is a very unusual woman. When my
brother and I were younger, she was very strict. My mother had an attitude
that we never questioned. She wouldn’t tolerate any misbehaving whatsoever
from us.
"When my mom said "No," I listened. Of course, every child has his moments when he pretends to rule the world and ignore Mom and Pops, but for the most part I obeyed my parents. My cousin Heather, who is only six months older than me lived in the same area when we were toddlers. When we would take our naps, our mothers would occasionally try to gain our cooperation with a piece of gum. They would put it on our pillows and say that we could eat it when we woke up. I always fell for this ruse and would go to sleep. Heather, on the other hand, would wait until they left the room and closed the door. She would immediately unwrap the gum and start chewing. "I went through a brief period of rebellion,
like many teenagers, and resented my parents. I didn’t enjoy reading my
Bible before Saturday morning cartoons and getting up early for church
every Sunday. I tried to find ways to bypass their system, by finding the
shortest chapter in the shortest book in the Bible for my required daily
Bible reading. I resented the fact that I didn’t have more control over
my life. I was being forced to live as a Christian and for a time, I felt
like I hated it!
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Ruth,
then and now.
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on the same website, Ruth's parents explain how they believe spankings
should be given:
"There is a practical reason for not using your hand to spank your children. By using a rod instead, you separate the discipline from the person of the giver. "The object of discipline is to change the child's attitude by giving them a foretaste of the potential terror and pain of eternal separation from God, which naturally result from rebellion and disobedience. My preference for utensils was to keep half a dozen wooden paint paddles (Free at the paint store) for our toddler sized children, for use on bare skin. If you are disciplining older children through clothing, you wil want to use a slender flexible rod several feet long, the traditional "switch." These are free and plentiful if you have trees close at hand. A switch should be no more than 1/4" thick so it will still sting. It must be flexible so it will not bruise or injure the child if it inadvertently comes into contact with the raised area of the spine, due to squirming or movement. "After the spanking, when a child has regained composure and stopped crying, it is important to reaffirm your love and affection and review the cause for discipline. Remind them that you discipline them because God requires it of you, not because you enjoy it. Some children may need a few minutes by themselves to regroup first. We insisted that our children cried softly and did not allow them to scream or make a scene when disciplined." Regarding when a child is too old for her parents to discipline her with spankings Ruth's parents write: "We used it until we no longer needed it. My wife thinks we didn't need to spank them after they were 8 years old, perhaps we might have threatened it once or twice when they [were in their] pre-teens. The object of discipline is to create a compliant attitude. It requires a measure of skill in application to develop a habit of habitual obedience in young children. We were diligent with our children when they were young and one result was that they responded well to our authority as they grew older. "If you haven't trained your children to habitual compliance then you may handicap yourself by putting the rod away too soon. Some teenagers may benefit from a good seat warming at times. The rod is appropriate whenever children display defiance, rebellion, or willful disobedience. We never made a conscious decision to stop using it, just found that a sharp reprimand worked as well with our children for sins of attitude as they grew older. We never told our kids they were too old for it either, we just didn't find it necessary :)" Ruth's parents write that she needed to be spanked more soundly as a child than her brother did: "My daughter had a much higher threshold of pain and she would laugh off a spanking that would bring her younger brother to tears immediately. We spanked our children until their attitude was changed from defiance to brokenness. A strong willed child may require a higher level of pain than you can safely produce using your hand which is one reason I don’t recommend the hand except as a convenience for immediate use with very young toddlers. You will find as your children grow older that a suitable spanking may produce lasting discomfort to your hand, particularly in the case of your wife. A suitable utensil produces the desired effect without resulting in inadvertent “punishment” to the parent! "As a rule, the act of disciplining a child for defiance, rebellion, or disrespect should be done in private. With such hostility on the part of western governments and societies, it is prudent to never spank in public. You should discipline each child separately so they can receive your full attention without the distraction of a nearby sibling. The other can wait their turn in another room. "You need not be concerned for making the discipline "fair" in the sense that one child may receive more frequent or harder spankings... God does not treat each of us the same when he disciplines us. The stubborn and rebellious are disciplined with more severity. He orders our experience so we experience appropriate consequences for our actions. It doesn't hurt to remind children that your job as parents is not be fair but to administer God's judgment without partiality or favoritism. "Some children will respond instantly to discipline and sweeten their attitudes without delay. However, strong willed children... may require some time to compose and gather their thoughts before the process of repentance is complete. So if necessary, you may give them a few minutes to cry alone and let them return to be welcomed back into fellowship with a hug and reassurance of love when they have settled. Usually they will return sweet in spirit, but if the first spanking wasn't sufficient and the wrong attitude continues then a second one can be administered, or a third or however many are required. Once they perceive that you will not yield until they obey they will not make such efforts to resist, but inconsistency or laziness in discipline will result in more trouble than the job done properly at the first. " In closing, a strong willed child makes an exceptional servant when they have learned to submit their lives to God. You can look forward to wonderful things from her in the future, but only if you succeed in bringing her into present obedience. Your goal should be to help her to submit her strong will to the mighty will of God." On yet another page of the site, Ruth's parents write: "If [your daughter] needs a spanking one hundred times a day, then discipline her one hundred times. "As to pulling away from a spanking, I don't think your children would pull away if they knew that the spanking would start over, every time they pulled away! Children are much more practical in these matters than we give them credit for. They know how to act when it regards their own best interest if we are not fooled by their antics. But they will look to see the determination in your eyes and test your resolve first. If you let them run away from the spanking you are teaching them that they are rewarded to disobey and that would is not a good lesson to result from a spanking so don't let them run away! "We normally retired to the bedroom to apply discipline, leaning them over the bed after they were over 2 years old. When they were toddlers we spanked on the spot at the place of disobedience, except when out of the home. We would occasionally make a trip to the automobile from a public place but this was not frequently required as we made sure that it would be remembered well so they knew when we threatened to make such a trip that it was to be avoided! "As far as resisting, if they did not cooperate, the first spanking was for the transgression. The next would be for not staying still for the spanking. And if they screamed and made a fuss they could also be spanked for the fuss as we required them to cry softly. We normally gave them a period to compose themselves before a special time of hugging and reassurance to remind them of the reasons for the discipline as well as assuring them of our forgiveness and affection." |
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"My dear wife... was brought up by very strict Christian parents.
She was never spanked in anger and always knew exactly why she and her
siblings were being spanked. I have tried to instill these
same procedures into our three children, a boy 9 years old, and two
twin girls, 4 years old. We always agreed on discipline methods
and started real spanking when our children were less than 2 yrs
old. We still have to spank them fairly often but somewhat less now.
When we do it, is not just a love tap to the bottom. Spankings
need to be painful to present a lesson. We don't think one swat on
the rear does any good... When spanking is necessary, it should be
done over the knee, bare bottom and enough times to make an impact - one
or two for every year of the child's age.
... "For example, last Sunday afternoon Laura just disappeared from the yard and came back after two hours. We learned that she stayed in the comparative safety of our neighborhood, with some friend, but she got a spanking all the same, for breaking the promise she had made not to go away without telling us and for not obeying the rules." |
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the hand until I reached my teen years. On my thirteenth birthday, my mother
presented me with a strangely shaped package. I opened it to find a wooden
Ping-Pong paddle. On it was painted: Becca's Very Own Spanking Paddle.
My mother insisted it hang in my room until I moved out.
"What position should a child be spanked in? My personal preference is over the knee (OTK). It usually works best if you are sitting in an armless chair. The child is taken and bent over your thighs, so their bottom is facing you. I prefer higher chairs because the child's legs and arms can't reach the floor, streching their skin and tenderizing it for a spanking. "Personally, I think most children today need a good sound bare bottomed spanking for their misbehavior. I know my three girls often do. There are many problems to spanking through clothes. First of all, through denim jeans, a child will barely feel your hand. You will need to use a hairbrush, which I feel is too harsh. Also, the severity of the spanking depends on whatever the child happens to be wearing, which is not very good. Parent's can also see the severity of their spankings. However, some parents might be uncomfortable taking down a child's underwear. Spanking through the underwear is almost as effective as barebottomed. The thin material provides much less protection, and the child will be subject to the same amount of pain." |
| "Haven, meet me in the bathroom!"
A few minutes later, I found her there. "Now, Haven," I began, "why are you getting this correction?" Her head hanging, she mumbled, "Because I went ahead and ate the Popsicle even though Grandmother told me not to." "Why was that wrong?" I persisted. "Because Grandmother is my authority and I need to obey her." I continued. "Why do you think she told you not to eat the Popsicle?" Haven stared at the floor. "Because we're going to have dinner soon and it might ruin my appetite." "Haven," I told her, "I'm going to need to spank you because Proverbs 23:13-14 says, 'Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you punish him with the rod, he will not die. Punish him with the rod and save his soul from death.' There may come a day when Grandmother tells you not to eat something because she knows it could make you sick. You must be in the habit of obeying her. Do you understand?" "Yes, ma'am," she said quietly. I beckoned her toward me, where I was seated on the toilet lid. "Now, lean over my lap." She bent over, submitting to my instruction. After I spanked her--eight times for her age--I invited her to sit on my lap. Cradling her in my arms, I said, "Haven, I love you and forgive you, but you need to ask Jesus to forgive you for not obeying Him." |
This is Haven,
who, in the opinion of HandPrince, is much too cute to spank...
...and that goes double for her younger
sister, Clancy!
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"When the time comes to apply the rod, take a deep breath, relax, and pray,
"Lord, make this a valuable learning session. Cleanse my child of ill-temper
and rebellion. May I properly represent your cause in this matter." No
jerking around. No raised voice. The child should be able to anticipate
the coming rod by your utterly calm and controlled spirit...
"Any spanking, to effectively reinforce instruction, must cause pain, but the most pain is on the surface of bare skin where the nerves are located. A surface sting will cause sufficient pain, with no injury or bruising. Select your instrument according to the child's size. For the under one year old, a little, ten- to twelve-inch long, willowy branch (striped of any knots that might break the skin) about one-eighth inch diameter is sufficient. Sometimes alternatives have to be sought. A one-foot ruler, or its equivalent in a paddle, is a sufficient alternative. For the larger child, a belt or larger tree branch is effective... "Some have asked, "But what if the child only screams louder, gets madder?"... Give him more of the same. On the bare legs or bottom, switch him eight or ten licks; then, while waiting for the pain to subside, speak calm words of rebuke. If the crying turns to a true, wounded, submissive whimper, you have conquered; he has submitted his will. If the crying is still defiant, protesting and other than a response to pain, spank him again." |
| "Never spank a child when angry. Make sure the child knows and understands what they did that was wrong and why they are being corrected. Do not surprise the child. Make it a planned event and something you do as a parent that is intentional and well thought out. Be calm and in control of yourself and emotions. Never spank a child anywhere but on the glutemus maximus muscles (buttocks, rear end). Use a paddle of smooth wood that is not too thick and has a handle designed to fit your hand so it won't slip. Demand and expect instant obedience. Spank the child on the bare bottom if possible. There is usually enough power in the snap of an adults wrist to administer a spank that will not be forgotten soon. You do not have to take a full swing like with a tennis racket. Make sure their hands are out of the way. Have them bend over your knee or against a table or chair. Let the number of spanks be done one at a time and deliberately, not fast and furious. Let them “soak in” one at a time. The object is to SAFELY inflict enough pain so the child will decide they will not commit the crime again." |

| "It should be carried out
in private to focus the attention of the child on the parent and to eliminate
any other influences (not to mention the threat of hotline calls if you
discipline in public). The reason for the spanking must be clarified so
that the child understands exactly why he is about to experience pain..."
"For the spanking itself the child must be put in a good physical posture for the act. Smaller children can be laid across the knees or lap. Older children could be told to lay over a chair or the edge of the bed. Part of the child's duty in receiving the discipline is to cooperate with the process and to assume the necessary position without complaint. "Speaking of complaint, the child must have an attitude of submission during the process. He should not be allowed to protest or resist your attempt to put him over you lap. He must have a submissive attitude in accepting the need for discipline and receive it willingly. His carrying on and fighting you would become another offense that requires another spanking..." "A spanking is supposed to hurt! Mere tapping with the rod, or spanking through layers of clothing and diapers, will not be effective. Your aim should be to spank until you elicit a cry of repentance from the child. Some children will begin crying before the rod even makes contact with their back sides, but it is not mere tears that you are after. Other children will respond to the blows with the rod by crying out in protest or anger, but this is definitely not what you are after. This response must be distinguished from a cry that signals the child is yielding his will and succumbing to the pain. Perhaps this sounds cruel, but what do you think is the point of spanking?! If it is not a token gesture, a symbolic event, then we must press on with the infliction of real pain, despite our sensibilities." |
| James Lyons of the Grace Baptist Church of
Columbus, Georgia, explains how he disciplined his two daughters when they
were growing up:
"Applying the board of education to the seat of learning. Since I am right-handed, I would have the child sitting on my right knee. At this point, I would lay the child forward over my left knee so that his or her legs were trapped between my legs, with my left hand I could hold down the child's upper body, and this would leave the child s natural padding as a raised target for my right palm. The child s ability to squirm was very limited by this arrangement, and I could deal with business swiftly and without the nuisance of chasing a Jack-in-the-Box or Jill-in-the-Box... "Sometimes when a child is about to be spanked, he or she will start to cry loudly or yell before the first stroke has even fallen... If I bent a child over and she started screaming, I would haul her back up, glare into her eyes and say real low, "Just what do you think you are doing? You stop that right now, you hear? Do you need two spankings? All right, then, you be quiet!" Then I would bend her back down and continue. We wanted our children to learn to accept correction with dignity... "[T]he most important thing to focus on during the chastening itself is the surrendering of the child s will. No spanking is truly finished, whatever tool is employed, until the will of the child gives in. Sometimes fair minded parents will say things like, "Now for this kind of an offense, you will get three licks with the paddle, and for that kind of an offense you will get five " and so on. Now it may be that in a school setting where a large number of diverse individuals are being managed, some sort of objective formula like this would be necessary. But I do not believe that this is the ideal way of administering discipline to one s own children. Your purpose should be for the child s will to submit, and the number of licks it takes to accomplish that is ultimately up to the child... "I remember once when our strongest willed daughter was undergoing the disciplinary exercise. After giving her what I had supposed was an adequate dose, I hoisted her up ready to launch into the comforting half of the ordeal. But before I could begin, she started complaining about her spanking in a way that betrayed a disturbing lack of repentance. I immediately bent her right back down and addressed her complaint in the appropriate manner! "When you let the child up from the spanking, turn her around and set her on your other knee. There is a subliminal symbolism in this, like moving a tassel. It says that a watershed has been crossed, the child has come through the lesson, and now she is facing a new direction, she is going the other way. It's almost like baptism the old child she used to be before bending down under the baptism of fire is buried and gone, and a new child, a good and obedient child has been resurrected in her place. This serves to divorce the child from that naughty person she felt like a moment ago.
"Hug her close to you for a moment and let her cry, and just comfort her
with your warmth as you kiss her hair and pat or rub her back and rock
her back and forth until she subsides a bit. Hold some toilet paper to
her nose, or if the child is older, just give it to her, and let her blow.
Then say
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IN DEFENSE OF BIBLICAL CHASTISEMENT (down)
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"It would be better to administer more licks that are less forceful than
to administer few licks that hurt severely. It is much more effective to
administer chastisement or punishment in a slow thoughtful fashion. Our
goal is to cause the child to voluntarily surrender his will. We want to
impress upon him the severity of his disobedience. It takes time and thoughtfulness
for the child to come to repentance. I have told a child I was going to
give him 10 licks. I count out loud as I go. After about three licks, leaving
him in his position, I would stop and remind him what this is all about.
I would continue slowly, still counting, stop again and tell him that I
know it hurts and I wish I didn’t have to do it but that it is for his
own good. Then I would continue slowly. Pretending to forget the count,
I would again stop at about eight and ask him the number. Have him subtract
eight from ten, (a little homeschooling) and continue with the final two
licks. Then I would have him stand in front of me and ask him why he got
the spanking.
"Children fight back because they think they have a chance of forestalling the spanking. First make sure the child never gains anything by fleeing. Second, cause the child to understand that he is further hurting himself by resisting. Slow down, stay calm. If you are in a frenzy, the child will respond in kind. If a child flees, don’t chase him. Wait and allow time for the tension to go out of the air. Slowly pursue him, explaining that he cannot win. If it takes a long time, that’s fine. Go to his hiding place and laugh at his frail attempts. Explain that if it takes fourteen days to bring him to justice, he will be brought to justice. Patience. Calm. Dignity. Wait until he calms down in the back of the closet, or under the bed, and as you sit outside, or just beyond him, quietly tell him that you are coming to give him his ten licks, but that since he has fled, he is now going to get one extra lick. Wait several minutes for him to calm down and listen with reason, and ask him how much ten plus one is. “That’s right, eleven. Would you rather have 10 licks or 11?” He answers “10.” Then tell him that it is too late to get just 10, but if he doesn’t come out immediately you will raise it to 12. He must have calmed down for him to make a rational choice. If not, then wait a little longer. Keep this up until you raise the stakes to about twenty licks, explaining to him that when you get to 20 licks you are coming after him. If he is locked in his room, explain that you will unlock the door. There is no escape. Be calm, non-threatening in tone. Just quiet dignity. Think of yourself as a high-ranking government official in charge of negotiations. Know that in the end you will win." |

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"Many people gasp when they hear 'Yes, we spank our children... [S]ometimes
there's just no substitute for a bare butt, over the knee, hand (or brush)
spanking. Now, you can turn your noses up at what we
use for discipline all you want. But we know what works, and our methods
keep the best peace in this household. It's systematic, loving, flexable,
and efficient.
"Our method of spanking is simple. We have a set pattern we follow most times. Usually we send them to their room to wait. For our children, waiting is effective, because it gives them time to realize that they made a no no. Then they are called to the room where they are to be punished, and lectured. We ask them what they did wrong, and ask why they did it. At this time, there is no way they are getting out of it, but we let them plead their case anyway (we never lead them to believe they can get out of it, only allow them the opportunity to possibly reduce their sentance by letting them explain). We also help them realize that life brings consequences, whether you steal from a store, fail to pay a traffic ticket, or skip paying your taxes. Then it's o.t.k., and on with the punishment. Afterwards, they are sent to their room for a while (usually an hour) and then we come back and comfort them with hugs and words of love, reassuring them we only punish them because we wish to teach them right from wrong, and to encourage them to not partake in the punishable behavior again." |
Daughters, Ellen and Michelle.
DOMESTIC DISCIPLINE: THE BOOK (down)
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"Young children need not be spanked very hard to 'get their attention'
and help them see the error of their ways. A parent or guardian can use
their open hand to spank kids on their bare buttocks and produce “stinging
pain” without the need to spank them in an intense manner. If you fail
to administer these very basic entry-level spankings while your children
are young, you will be sorry when you see your beautiful toddler becomes
a total brat within a few short years.
"As children become older you may find it necessary to use an implement like a belt, hair brush or paddle to do an effective job of spanking them. I recommend younger children (preteens) be spanked “bare butt” as a safety factor so you can monitor any marks you may create during the spanking process. Some kids can endure a lot of pain and may require a more intense spanking than others. This is why I WON’T tell you how long, or how hard, to spank them. If you spank kids fully clothed, you will most likely spank them too hard and risk injuring them. They may not even feel any pain due to the thick clothing and mock your attempt to discipline them... "An older child or teenager can be spanked “bare butt” without exposing private parts of the body, like the genital area. Offenders in this age group should be spanked with some type of implement, as the human hand is not a practical instrument to use on the backside of an adult. If you spank hard enough to do the job you may well actually do physical damage to your hand. If you use an implement carefully you can achieve the desired results without becoming abusive in any manner. "One of the primary reasons parents and guardians should be the primary people to administer discipline is they KNOW their children. They can easily tell when enough is enough, and also when to increase the intensity and the duration of a spanking session. Spanking should be conducted in a prompt and business like manner, without a lot of discussion and ceremony. The clothing should be adjusted enough to expose the buttocks area and the spanking should begin immediately. Brisk applications of pain will quickly drive away any erotic overtones that may be encouraged if discipline becomes a long and drawn out game. A firm spanking will deter future offenses if conducted properly." |
OUR GOD IS AN INFINITE GOD (down)
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"In His wonderful imagination, He has placed within the very spanking itself
a potential of an exciting, holy bond of love between the one being so
punished, and the one to whom He has delegated His authority. Please note
that I said POTENTIAL. This glorious encounter with His love does not happen
automatically. The one being chastised and the person in authority must
cooperate with the abundant graces which our Heavenly Father is offering....
"If the repentant child will accept, welcome, and embrace a spanking from the parent, constructive ripples will emanate. The goodness in the heart of this repentant child will be a channel for God's love to flow, reaching people that might not otherwise be reached... "Once the child has accepted the spanking, the parent must pour out her love and tenderness upon him, before, during (even the spanking is highly painful), and after the spanking. Even with an ideal heart of contrition, the child may be fearing, "How can I possibly endure this pain?" The parent must let the child know that she will tenderly help him (holding his hand? embracing his back with the free hand?) through this ordeal. The parent must also communicate gratitude for the child's now unselfish repentance, as well as tender love regarding the pain in which he is engulfed. Thus, the child loses himself in penitentially embracing the spanking, and the parent envelops the child in indescribable tenderness." |

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"I came on the scene not long after the Depression and World War II. As
a boy, I was well acquainted with, as my mother called it, the "rod of
correction." From her perspective, there was nothing more fitting for misbehavior
than the stern application of the leather on a sassy boy bottom. If nothing
else, I can attest, the experience grabs your attention -- while altering
the complection of your posterior!"
"[W]e have to make the price of disobedience so high the child will be left thinking about it for a long time. Hebrews 12:11, "No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful." Firmly and dramatically: but not abusively. SPANK them, but never overdo it or you may harm the gluteal muscle, underneath. We are absolutely opposed to child abuse. In fact, these days even the laws are "opposed" to child abuse, (It has taken a while). Biblical discipline is training in righteousness, not abuse. Always has been. "On small children don't overdo it. So how about a flyswatter on the skin? The epidermis quickly heals, but the memory (and the lesson) remains forever." |

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Let it be clearly understood that spanking is not the "least desired" of
the various methods of punishment, but the BEST method, one which is God-given.
Spanking should NEVER be considered a "last resort" when all has failed....
But spanking should NEVER be done in anger! It should ALWAYS be done in love. The child psychologists have been unable to reconcile themselves to the conception that any parent is capable of punishing his child in love! Spanking is NOT an extreme as a "last resort’ but is the best method of positive teaching, the God-given, Divinely inspired method, the way that really works!... Generally it is going to be better to spank with your own hand. That way, you can feel it, too, and you will be even surer you are not overdoing it. Many parents utilize a small switch, which will sharply sting, but never break the skin or bruise. As the author already quoted said, "Spanking or nettling small legs with appropriately small switches are only two of the methods that may be used."... An extremely effective implement is one of the lighter ping pong paddles, applied to the bare buttocks. (This I know from personal experience!) With children from two to six or eight years, many parents use the father’s belt. However, caution should be used in applying a belt. Certainly the end with the buckle, or any belt that has metal affixed to the portion to be used should NEVER be applied to a child... The old-fashioned idea of the "hair brush" is more mythical than factual, and with today’s modern plastic hair brushes and the like, should never be used. The place to punish a child is squarely on the buttocks! As has already been covered, very high on the sides of the thighs, or with a small switch, on the backs of the legs, would be equally as appropriate. HOWEVER, this must be wisely decided depending upon the severity of the punishment, and the implement used! Be extremely careful if punishing with a belt that only the shortest portion of the belt is used, and that is not allowed to wrap around the child’s body, or in any way run the risk of striking so as to injure or cause severe pain. Use common sense - punish your child in LOVE - calmly - not in the heat of emotion and you need not fear "overpunishment."... To be effective, spanking should always be prompt! Frequently, because of "embarrassment" in the presence of friends, being in a public place, driving in a car, or other difficulty which seems to make the immediate application of punishment somewhat problematic, parents will defer punishment until a later time. This should never be done! ... Parents who say "Am I going to have to give you a spanking?" are parents who ALWAYS speak more than once. Have you been using these phrases? Do you speak more than ONCE to your children? Speak to your child once! Then, if disobedience follows, IMMEDIATELY apply the proper punishment! It is only in this way that punishment can be truly effective! It is truly amazing the degree to which a child’s hearing may be sharpened by only speaking ONCE, firmly, and sharply! Thousands of parents seem to be in blissful ignorance of the fact their children could be trained to literally "jump at the snap of their fingers" if they cared to use the diligence to gain this end. You may have heard of the children who were startled into humble quietude by the mere "clearing of the throat" of their father as a warning. You may have heard of other children who could have been silenced with a mere look.... If you want your child for something, simply say, "Johnnie, come here!" if the child ignores you, wait just a moment or two, then arise from your chair, calmly bare the child’s bottom and apply about five or six good sharp swats! If Johnnie pretends he "didn’t hear you!" and tearfully tells you he didn’t realize you were calling him - you may be positively assured that if you explain the reason why he is being spanked, he WILL hear you the next time!... You, as a parent, should begin to speak to your child only once! Say, "Eat your dinner." And then, if, after a few moments, the child is still toying with his food, showing disinterest, or daydreaming - calmly take him down from the dinner table, into another room, lower his pants and give him a good effective spanking! Allow him to remain in his room until the crying has completely subsided, and until he is settled down again, and then firmly place him on his chair and say, "Eat your dinner!" this time, you may be fully persuaded, the chances are far more likely that he is going to finish his dinner... Spanking should be, if properly utilized, the most positive method of child rearing there is. With the proper, kind and discerning TEACHING of the RIGHT action, both before and after the spanking, this gives a positive and negative side to the spanking procedure which will be lastingly beneficial.... Most of the time, your child is going to disobey "accidentally." He will disobey "accidentally." He will disobey through carelessness, thoughtlessness, forgetfulness, or simply through a lack of understanding what is expected of him. However - don’t be deceived! There are many occasions when a child will DELIBERATELY disobey - and needs to be spanked accordingly! Let your child know you believe in his underlying good intent! Frequently, the young boy and girl will say, quite tearfully, "I didn’t mean to!" you should answer, "Of course you didn’t MEAN to!" Explain to the child how you "understood" that they did it merely through carelessness or forgetfulness. But say "had I thought you would have done such a deed on purpose I would have punished you much more severely! I know and understand that you wouldn’t have done this deliberately - TRYING to be disobedient - but because I love you, I must impress upon you that you should never do this through forgetfulness or careless again!" Then, when the tears have subsided after a spanking, LOVE your children - take them up and show them some affectionn! NEVER allow the child to run from the one parent who has done the punishing to the other for the loving and the affection - but ALWAYS make sure the child is loved, first of all by the parent who has done the punishing!
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SPANKING YOUNG CHILDREN (down)
| "I started spanking my kids around the age of two. I do not think this was too early. I spanked like my mother did. She would use her hand when we were under five or so. She always spanked bare. Three swats with the open hand delivered very quickly and in the same place. She said years later that she did it this way to hurt alot without a lot of spanks." |
| "My children have been grown now for some time. I would like to say that [they] are very successful professionals now. I only spanked for blatant disobedience and stopped by the time they were twelve. I found that spanking my daughters was quite... well exciting. I remember spanking them before bed and after their baths. Although it has been fifteen years I look back fondly to having an eight year old girl over my knee. To bed they usually wore a tee shirt and panties. I only spanked a few times bare." |
| "I believe that traditional, old fashioned loving spankings have their place in proper childrearing, but only if done with wisdom and moderation for the child's own good. Whenever my daughter became disobedient or defiant as a child, she earned herself a brief series of sharp, stinging slaps on her bare buttocks. This only lasted a few seconds, and never left a bruise, only a pink bottom and abundant tears. Afterwards she received comfort and reassurance of my love. I found this method of discipline very effective with my child. In our home, proper instruction, a wholesome Christian atmosphere, and a wholesome fear of a spanking, kept her well behaved most of the time." |
| "I have two daughters, both of whom are being raised in a Christian home with parents who believe in providing guidance and discipline as needed. That can mean anything from a gentle verbal reminder to a traditional spanking... I use a wooden hairbrush when special circumstances warrant it, but I usually use my hand. I spank bare bottom; my husband spanks over panties... Our daughters are 8 and 11. I recently had to spank the younger girl because she got into a shoving match at school. I took her over my knee and spanked her bare bottom until it was bright pink. |
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"I am a strong believer in establishing in a child a sense of fear and respect of her parents, as well as love. In my daughter's case, she has learned that I mean business when I tell her not to do something and she disobeys, and with time, she has become overall a wonderful well-behaved, polite child (so far). I feared my own father as I grew up, and he rarely spanked me, but I knew when he did, I had really transgressed. I cannot thank him enough now for instilling in me a sense of fear and respect of him as my parent. Many parents don't understand this, but as parents, it is our duty to command the obedience of our children. It can be done in a very loving manner, not despite an occasional spanking, but because we choose to discipline with a spanking when necessary. When I pick up my daughter at school, and she runs to my arms with a huge smile, it is impossible for me to believe I am somehow warping her mind or inflicting psychological conditioning that it is OK to hit people, except when it is done very gently and carefully, and only when necessary, in the first few years of life." "When my girl was little, the shoe stores gave out balloons on plasticised rope-sticks. Those were great as a rod. Very flexible, not too thick, and they didn't get brittle with age. My second choice was an appropriately sized branch from a tree. Do file off the rough places, though....A rod will never leave any lasting injuries, no matter how hard you hit with it (as long as you only hit on the fleshy part of the buttocks.) " ' "If your head thinks up mischief, your bottom's going to pay for it." "A hard head makes a soft behind." I will say, Mom's hairbrush actually hurt worse than Dad's belt.' "Too often, I see parents who refuse to spank resort instead to bribing, begging, screaming, empty threats, or ineffectively rendered 'time-outs.' None of that happens in our house. A line is crossed, a controlled spanking is rendered, there are hugs all around and we move on. In fact this consistency means my kids get the message fast - and spankings quickly become relatively infrequent for each child." "I have spanked both my children when it is warranted and it doesn't matter the time or place. They know they are never safe from punishment and they know it. In a restaurant a few years back, I grabbed my misbehaving child and took him to the car for an old-fashioned spanking. On other occasions, I have told the waitstaff to make the order "to go" and left the restaurant. I have zero tolerance for misbehavior in my children in public places. Two summers ago, I was taking my kids for a day at the beach (60 miles away), we were just getting there when they started fighting and misbehaving in the car. I stopped the car, spanked the both of them and drove 60 miles home where they spent the rest of the day sorting laundry, mowing the grass, cleaning the kitchen, etc." "Mine, too, got spanked. I firmly believe that humans are animals. If you don't train them, you have wild animals. I didn't publicly humiliate them, if misbehaving in public, I took them to the restroom to paddle them." "I nearly always carry a wooden spoon in my purse. If my daughter acts up ... I quietly show her my 'little friend.' Just the sight of it makes her stop what she is doing and behave herself. In the beginning she thought I wouldn't use it in public. Wrong. We'd either go to a dressing room or a bathroom and I'd have her get reacquainted with my 'little friend.' " "The worst whipping I ever got as a kid was from the man across the street (I accidently shot him in the nose with a rubber tipped dart gun when he had told me several times not to point it at anything I did not intend to shoot. He was a prolific gun collector and was trying to teach me gun safety). I went home and told my mom expecting her to give him hell. She took me by the hand, took me back over there and whoopped me in front of him." "My daughter at 11 years of age saw the neighbor boy successfully threaten his mother with Children's Protective Services if she spanked him, so she decided to try the same thing with her mother. My wife told her, 'Go ahead. You can call right after I beat your ass. Hope you like your new home.' She never threatened again." "My great-grandmother was practically a saint, and she beat my @ss on more than one occasion with a mulberry switch I had to cut myself. And God forbid I came back with one too small. I can honestly say that I deserved every one of them. My father used the belt, and my elementary school principal, middle school principal, and high school principal all used a wooden paddle the size of a cricket bat." "My mom spanked me with a hairbrush, when I was 7 years old. Should I sue her?" "My mom used to break wooden spoons over my butt. When she got tired of wasting those, the hairbrush became the tool of choice. (and no-there was nothing wrong with it- I deserved it!)" "There are parents who would snatch the child up... take a belt, open hand, paddle, or whatever, and "spank" the child until the child cannot draw a breath -- having expelled it all in a scream of pain and shock -- and keep whipping or "spanking" long after that. The child cannot draw a normal breath for many minutes without involuntary sobbing spasms." "Define in advance unacceptble behavior(Ok you can't think of everything). When the line is crossed tell the perp what he has done, and that you will see him in his room in a few hours to administer the punishment. The waiting is the worst part... At the appointed time enter the perp's room, and give a long long lecture about why he shouldn't do that. Then say the magic words "this hurts me more than you" (kids hate that) Then spank with a belt or some pliable thing, not your hand(can injure). Remember, it's not the pain, but the humiliation and stewing that gets em." "I was whipped with a belt by my Dad when I was growing up in the 50s and 60s. In retrospect most of the whippings were justified and helped control my exuberance. There is such a thing as child abuse but corporal punishment isn't abuse in my opinion. We also got whacked with a paddle at school when we couldn't abide by the rules. I never viewed that as abuse either." "When you're wearing a pair of blue jeans, a spanking with an open hand is not going to send much of a message (especially if it is done by a woman that is petite.) A belt will cause a sting through pants, but it won't do any damange." " A switch cut from a birch could obviate the later use of a big metal one on the wall." "When [my daughter] needs it, she gets a spanking, it gets her attention real quick and she learns that she can't continue to do what she was doing wrong... As a parent, I hate doing this - no one wants to cause their child pain. But a little sore bottom now can save the child and their family a lot of pain in the future. " "God designed children with a soft padded area full of nerve endings but no easily damaged organs. God designed adults with harder flattened areas full of nerve endings suitable for detecting exactly how much pressure is being applied to them. The application of the adult area on the child area is the ideal form of child discipline." "All children are born with their brains in their behinds and you must warm that area to get their brains to rise with the heat up into their heads." "I spanked my children rarely but it was enough to let them know I meant business and it got to the point where all they needed was the "evil mom-eye" look to straighten them out." "Whatever term is used for striking a child forcefully and repeatedly with a paddle or switch, it's hardly an extraordinary practice, and certainly not beyond what the law allows." "Spanking was useful with my two daughters (now 16 and 20) only to get their attention when they lost control. My keys were, 1) use spanking sparingly or it loses its meaning, 2) do not spank hard, 3) never spank when you are mad, and 4) make them explain why they got spanked after they calm down." "Pain has a very purgative value on bad behavior and a bad attitude in a small child. I had to spank my daughter on a regular basis between the ages of two and five--she was an unbelievably stubborn, contrary little girl!! After age five, I only needed to threaten her occasionally with a spanking (holding the paddle up in the air), and from then on, the possibility of a spanking was enough to cause her to accept my authority. I don't believe in using belts, etc. Either use just a small paddle (for mom's--remember, the spanking needs to hurt, and a toddler is usually wearing thick diapers or training pants--LOL) or just the hand for dads(who don't need a paddle to make it hurt--LOL) Having said all that, there are some children who are so sensitive that just glaring at them instantly humbles them into contrition and obedience. Those types of kids don't need to be spanked. My daughter was the other kind of kid--LOL." "On four occasions I had to spank them (my daughter once, my son three times). They had to go outside and cut me a peach switch and I can assure you they were shaking like leaves in the process. One lick and it was over - I never saw the offensive behavior again." "You have to make it hurt enough that it is unpleasant. If you use something that will sting the skin (NOT a blunt object, like a hand) you can use less force and not injure. Things like switches and belts, when used appropriately, were actually humane adoptions by our forebears, instead of the tools of torture they have been made out to be by propogandists. You might try a little, light wooden ruler on the thigh, because a light smack with it would sting the skin enough just to say "Pay attention." " "We used a definate amount of swats, usually 3-5, with a wooden spoon. The swats were just enough to get their attention, bring some tears and sniffling and the spoon became the symbol of the pain instead of the parent's hand." "Spanking does not work with my 6 year old. It never really worked at all. She is a stubborn little cuss who would look right at you after a spanking and laugh in your face, no matter how much the spanking hurt." "Spanking should sting, but should not be so very painful that it's cruel. I don't spank through clothes. All that does is force you to spank harder, and you'll probably re-align the child's spine before he feels a good sting." " I have found and observed a few well timed and placed whacks with a firm hand to be very instructive. I believe for younger kids say younger than 6 or so depending on sex and size--hand whacks are usually sufficient. For say 6-12 or thereabouts depending on size and maturity--a simple flat board maybe twice as wide as paint stirring board seems quite fitting." "To sum up, the spanking ritual in my home went something like this: An offense is committed which requires a spanking. A knowing "look" is exchanged. I ask my daughter what is going to happen. She tells me she is going to get a spanking. Let's say I am really angry. I send her to her room to wait for me to cool down. After I cool down I call her out of her room. I would start counting while I waited for HER to assume the position. Using some implement (wooden spoon, paddle, switch), never my hand, I would administer the number of swats to her butt equal to the count required. Afterwards, I would have her explain to me why she was spanked. If there was evidence that she didn't understand something at that point, I made sure it got cleared up. Then I would hug her, tell her how much I loved her and how much God loved her." "My mom gave us what she called "The Spankin' Spoon." It was the metal slotted spoon with holes in it one would normally use to dish out soup, not spankings. It did leave some interesting patterns on a bare butt. Kind of like crop circles, only in bright pink." "Personally, I never spanked with my bare hands, because I love them with my hands. Instead I used one of those thin paddles that comes with the ball attached by the thin elastic band. I removed the elastic band and ball, and it became a small rear-end sized paddle." "1. Never spank with your bare hand...
you may accidentally hurt yourself.
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This site is run by a man who believes in spanking so ferverently that
he will send a paddle free of charge to anyone who asks for one.
(His wife thinks he's off his rocker). Check out the Comments board
for the most entertaining part of the site.
"I'm a 35 year old father
who will spank his daughters when needed in public or at home, and always
pants and panties down. they need to know that as a man and as their father
i am in charge. it makes girls feel secure to know a man is in charge.
i dont however use paddles or any implement other than my hands, you really
dont need to especially not with daughters."
"Imagine your reaction if an authority figure,
having discovered some misdeed of yours, pinned you across his lap and
began slapping your buttocks. Painfulness aside, most people would consider
this a rude, inexcusable assault on their modesty, no matter what they
had done to “deserve” it. Many people might assume that children, especially
very young children, are too ignorant or naive to feel such indignity,
or perhaps too impressed by the physical pain of spanking to care about
much else. The truth is, however, that spanking can seriously injure a
child’s sense of modesty."
"I am a pastor and I have always advocated
loving discipline in the home. I did not spank my adopted daughter, despite
her bad behavior because I was afraid she would associate it with abuse.
In the fall, though, she became too much to handle. We prayed, consulted
others, and considered sending her to a Christian boarding home. That is
when I came across your site. I decided to put your method in action. Since
then, she has, pretty much willingly, submitted to discipline three or
four times. She likes the fact that the punishment is over and all is forgiven
at the end, and we always end the session with prayer."
"I need advice on what i should do with my
9 year old daughter Jennifer. When Jen was little her mother or I used
to spank her on her bare bottom with our hand we never used any sort of
implement. After some time the spanking stopped and she never really got
into any trouble. However, these days she is constantly talking back to
us and is pretty much ignoring everything we say. I am not sure what to
do..Do I spank her or is she too old? If i should spank her should it be
bare bottom? Should i use an implement? Please give me some advice oon
how i should carry out her punishment. Thank you."
"My ocassionally willful daughter has already recieved exactly three spankings after other behaviorial modification methods did not work. I'm told by my father-in-law that she takes after her mother, and that similar methods yielded the astonishingly well behaved young woman that I am married to today. My daughter is still too young to get the 'time out' but the verbal warning usually works very well, with the threat of either a loss of something special, such as a future treat, or the threat of a spanking. ... In all the time I was growing up, I received exactly seven spankings that I can remember. After each, I never repeated the behavior that earned the spanking. Never. One of the spankings was from a Nun in the Catholic grade school, and when I went home to complain to my mom and dad about it, I received another, because my parents believed, and rightly so, that I deserved it." |

| "Yet some may feel that even a spanking is cruel. After
all, I have admitted that spankings are painful. Yes, spankings are painful;
they must be. If spanking is to be effective, it must be painful enough
for the child to want to avoid it in the future. Often the child will cry
when spanked. Parents don't like to hurt their children, so why should
they spank. As we have seen, it is sometimes necessary to use punishment.
And all punishments are painful. Having to pay a ticket for speeding is
painful; staying after school is painful, not getting to go to a party
because of misbehavior is painful. Punishments have to be painful if they
are to be work. So we should not stop spanking because it is painful. On
that grounds, we would never use any punishment. Moreover, a parent must
sometimes do something unpleasant for the child's own good."
"If you are away from home when your child acts up, avoid the "wait till we get home" approach. Take the child to your car or to a private bathroom. Spanking should be delayed only when there is no option to spank in private where you are. Privacy, however, is more important than timeliness. Your child should not be embarrassed by having others see her spanked. Therefore, never spank in public. When you decide a child needs to be spanked, take her to her room, your room, or a bathroom. Where is not important as long as you are guaranteed privacy. And never spank one of your children in front of another, for there is no need for the embarrassment this might cause... "I recommend spanking with your hand; avoid using implements. If you feel, however, that using your hand would not be effective, then use a paddle, an instrument especially designed for spanking... Now if you have ever given your child a few swats on her fully clothed bottom, you soon realized that your hand was receiving most of the punishment. Some parents solve this problem by having their child remove all clothing below the waist. However, I strongly recommend against this since it is liable to be embarrassing for your child, especially an older one. Embarrassment should never be the goal of a parent. My suggestion, therefore, is to have your child remove her pants and spank on her underpants. By allowing your child to keep her underpants on, you will spare your hand but allow her to protect her modesty... "The Bottom Line: Spank your child as soon after her misbehavior as possible. But always spank in private. Spank with your hand on underpants. Most importantly, be sure that your child understands the reason for the spanking and how she is expected to act in the future." "The age at which a child is "too old" for a spanking can not be stated definitely; it depends on the child. However, my experience is that most parents stop too soon rather than too late. It is easy to be fooled by kids today. Their dress, attitudes, and knowledge of the world can make them seem very mature, and so we tend to think they are grown up before they actually are. However, children continue to develop their sense of right and wrong through middle school and even into high school. Therefore, older children need rules and structure as much, and sometimes more than, younger ones. We do our children no favors by ignoring this fact and treating them as "adults." Curiously, most children are aware of their need for rules even when their parents are not. I have had more than a few kids tell me that their parents are not strict enough: something many parents would be shocked to hear a child say. But living in a world without rules and guidance is scary. Children need and want our direction. "If older children need rules, then there must be consequences for breaking those rules; otherwise, the rules are meaningless. But what should the consequences be? For many older children, I think it should be spanking. Remember that spanking has the advantages of intensity and duration when compared to other punishments, and intensity and duration are just as important when dealing with older children as younger ones. Therefore, spanking should continue to be used with preteens and young teens both as a first resort for lying and disobedience and as a last resort when other forms of discipline fail." |
| "It worked well for us to use a thin wooden spoon. We felt
it to be safer than using our hand, though there were times we used our
hand. With the hand there can be too much momentum. We would pull the pants
down in the back and spank one, two, or three times on the bare bottom.
The thin wooden spoon gives a sting without a large momentum impact. It
was our view that the actual magnitude of the spanking was not so important.
That is, we could afford to have the spanking be too mild rather than too
severe, because it was the act of spanking that was the important thing,
not the nature of the spanking itself.
"The moment there was an act of disobedience, disrespect, or dishonesty, we would tell the child they were going to get a spanking and why. We would often tell them to go get the spanking spoon and go upstairs to their room. Once in their room we would explain again why, give the spanking, and then evaluate if there was an attitude of surrender and humility or an attitude of defiance and rebellion. While evaluating the child’s attitude, we would hug our child and love our child and tell them we love them and tell them that Jesus loves them. If there was an attitude of rebellion, such as an arching of the back, or pulling away, etc., we would tell them they were going to get another spanking if they didn’t relent and surrender with a humble attitude. We would then administer another spanking in the same way as the first. Each time the child would be given an opportunity to express remorse and surrender. If necessary, this process would go on through numerous cycles, lasting forty minutes or more. |
| [To children] "First, I want you to stop and read these Scriptures:
Proverbs 13:24; 19:18; 22:15; 23:13,14. You see, God has commanded your
parents to paddle you often. It seems that you learn best when it smarts.
A child who does not fear his parents will never learn to fear God. They
are in charge of your dress and appearance as long as you reside in their
home as a dependent. They are to see that the boys have a proper haircut
(I Cor. 11:14) and that the girls are dressed in modest apparel (I Tim.
2:9). You are a testimony to the godliness of that home. As long as you
eat food at their table and sleep in their bed, you must do as they say."
"Early the child should be made to conform to the sleep requirements of Mom and Dad. When a child cries at night he is either hungry, dirty, stuck with a pin or sick. In every case there should be some relief available. If none of the foregoing is true, I would suggest a spanking..." "If you have obeyed the Lord in paddling them when they were small, the need for such discipline should decrease as they get older. Should the occasion call for a spanking, I would give it in spite of the fact that they are too big." "There is a crying need today in Christian homes for the father to apply the "board of education" to the "seat of learning." Eli lost his sons because he refused to discipline (I Sam. 3:13). The father should insist on obedience and respect for Mom and Dad. None of his children should ever "mouth off" to Mom and Dad. A good solid spanking on the thick part of the anatomy in the back is best. Hitting children around the face and head may cause permanent injury and could come under the heading of "child abuse." His boys should have their hair cut short, his girls should have knee-length skirts (or longer). He should make them attend all the services [of the Church] along with the parents. While they eat at his table and sleep in his beds, he should make them do what the Lord wants them to do." "When the father is not home, [the mother] will spank the children and teach them to fear the consequences of disobedience. She may save the hard cases for when Dad comes home especially if the spanking should be real hard. Children who do not learn to fear Mom and Dad will never fear God." "Teach [your child] to sit by you in church. They should be brought into the pew and trained to sit quietly through the services. You may have to take them out once or twice to paddle them, but it will pay rich rewards." |
| "Spanking a child in front of his siblings has rarely, if ever,
caused a child embarrassment. Young children are not easy to embarrass.
If they are slightly embarrassed, it may motivate them not to repeat whatever
misbehavior led to the spanking. Spanking in front of siblings will also
encourage said siblings not to commit the same disobedience."
"The “I Mean Business” Spanking. This is usually one to several stinging swats to the clothed bottom, delivered with a firm hand or a paddle. This type of spanking should be reserved for repeated misbehavior or some serious offense knowingly committed by an older child. The offending child should be require to bend over and place their hands safely out of the way on a chair or counter. The parent should outlast until the child submits. Then one or several swats are given." "With slightly older children, if I am stuck in an awkward situation where I need good behavior but don’t want to discipline immediately, one of my favorite solutions is to “count”. For example, if we are going shopping, I stop before we enter the store and go over my behavior expectations with my children – don’t touch anything, talk softly, stay right next to me, and so forth. I also explain to them that if they disobey me in the store, I am going to “count”. I will add another “count” each time they disobey, and they will receive the number of swats that I’ve counted once we return home. So, if I tell a child not to touch something and he does it anyway, I will count: “one”. If he touches again a few minutes later, I will count: “two” and so on. I have found this counting method works very well will my children who are old enough to appreciate after-the-fact discipline. I don’t think I’ve ever gotten past the count of three before they’ve taken it to heart and shaped up." "Another reason why spanking often doesn't work too well with some children is because the parents present it as an option. The spanking is considered a "payment" or "punishment" for some specific misbehavior, rather than a correction designed to change behavior. This may seem like a fine line, but older kids pick up on this quite readily. They will often decide to do as they please and take the risk that they might get spanked or otherwise punished for it. Whenever I spank one of my children, I do it giving the clear impression to the child that the behavior is not ever acceptable, and he will be spanked again until he stops the misbehavior permanently." |
| This site contains transcripts from a now defunct Christian
radio show on which the subject of child discipline was frequently discussed,
especially by regular guest, Elisabeth Elliott and her daughter, Valerie
Shepard. Valerie has eight children and carries on the discipline
tradition she learned at, and across, her mother's knee. -HP
June
8, 2000
They need a mother and a father who speak the truth to them, who say, "If you do this, then this will happen." For example, with a young child, "If you touch that cord, you will be spanked." The truth is that you will give them a spanking. You don't give them threats, empty threats. So children need to hear that from their parents. They need to know that their parents' word is true. Elisabeth Elliot: I like what Barb Tompkins taught her children. "If you do this, you are choosing a spanking." If the child persists in doing the thing, which has been forbidden, then she very calmly takes the child on her lap and says, "Katie, I see that you have chosen a spanking. And now, I must give it to you because God says that I as t |