| Spanking Art & Story Sites: |
| You've seen SpankArt's delightful work scattered about various Drawings Galleries on this website. Does viewing his spanking art and others like it make you want to try your hand at creating some original images of your own? If so, SpankArt's website, A Spanking Art Genre is for you! It is full of useful pointers for beginning artists with tips on drawing in general, and on drawing of juvenile spankings in particular. |



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(And of course, when you
finish that */f image, submit it via email it to
Handprints for possible inclusion in a future Drawings
Gallery!)
Original art by Bee Bee (Phoebe) and spanking images from
Little Audrey, Richie Rich and other comics. If anyone
has a current url for this site, please let me know.
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| A nice Japanese spanking anime-style site by Makoto. |
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Debbie Boone (pop singer):
"Spankings, especially from my
father, were not just a perfunctory pat on the behind.
He meant for us to remember them and used
a slipper, belt, or anything else
that stung. The number of whacks on our bare bottoms
depended as much on our reaction to being
caught as the offense itself. We
could expect more if we had lied or talked back."
"Often with tears still fresh in
our eyes, [my three sisters and I] would go up to my
room and compare war wounds. Bending over, we'd back up
to the mirror to see whose backsides had the reddest
marks. Mine were always the worst, mainly because I had
the most
sensitive skin."
"Another time Laury was paddled
when I deserved it came when we were playing "truth or
dare." The game involved a choice
between answering any embarrassing
questions the other players could think up or accepting
a dare to do crazy or sometimes
dangerous things. One summer at
camp, I made others eat horse manure and even tried it
myself. At home, I had been known to
dare my sisters to jump from tall
trees or rooftops."
"This time I made Laury take off
her clothes and ride her bicycle around the driveway.
She was only nine, nothing too obscene, but
there she went after we taunted her
sufficiently. Our family home is right on a busy
intersection, and Laury had to ride around our
circular driveway and out onto the
sidewalk—five times in all. Lindy and I hid in the
bushes, laughing hysterically, especially
when a tour bus drove by to show
out-of-state visitors "the homes of the stars.""
"Laury was tooling around on her
fourth trip, when our mother came back from a shopping
trip. The car screeched to a halt in the
driveway, and Laury was grabbed off
that bike almost quicker than we knew it. Lindy and I
stifled our laughter as we watched
Laury's bare behind disappear
through the front door under my mother's strong right
arm."
"I never said a word to protect
Laury. She had once told me she'd rather take the
punishment than watch me get paddled. That was
fine with me. I figured at the time
that if she was that dumb, I wouldn't stand in her way.
Today, I recognize that Laury wasn't
dumb. What I mistook as stupidity
was really the seed of warm sensitivity and compassion
for other people."
I didn`t always do this. Indeed I was a thoroughly normal, boisterous easily-bored child, who would risk the odd lie if it covered a minor transgression. And it was the lie that engendered the greatest thrashing.
It was wartime and sugar was rationed. A bowl of this forbidden delight sat in the middle of the table while my mother fetched some cakes from the kitchen.
A quick lick of my finger, a quick dip in the gorgeous sweetness and all was as normal when my mother returned. Except that there suddenly appeared a gaping, glaring crater in the middle of the forbidden food, clear evidence of a crime, clear evidence of my guilt.
But I denied all knowledge. So now it was two crimes - stealing and lying. There was to be no discussion of the matter. Retribution was immediate and memorable. I got the slipper on a bare backside."
So I was pulled up in an assembly
in front of the entire school by one of the nuns, to be
made an example of, and she bent me over in front of 600
students, I was the new girl - I only knew two, bent me
over and whipped me on my little pantaloons. Most
embarrassing, it was very tough.
Apologizing profusely, Mother bid them good-bye and steered me into another room, one stiff finger between my shoulder blades.
"Take down your pants," she commanded, and produced a wooden yardstick from her cupboard of sewing materials. "Bend over!" She was not fooling.
So far as I knew, few people had inspected my bottom bare. It was not my most impressive feature, and my instinct always was to hid it. I was mortified to be hunched over, staring at a woodenfloor with my nude bottom upended.
Her yardstick fell with a sharp thwack. It really didn't sting, but I didn't laugh and didn't straighten up. It was ineffective punishment; my bottom, then and now, made me the original dead-end kid. The second time her stick cracked in two, sending the broken end clattering across the floor. I turned and peered up. Mother was staring at the shattered stub still clutched in her hand, her eyes glistening.
Slowly I eased off her lap and pulled up my panties. She had started crying silently, so I put my arms around her and nestled one cheek close against her chin. In a moment she dropped the broken stub to the floor and put her arms around me, tears dampening both her face and mine. The moment was a watershed, in more ways than one. We remained in our embrace a long time, silent symbolism of the love and sense of partnership which would characterize our lifelong relationship. It was my first spanking from her, but not the last."
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IN MEMORY OF GEORGE
JACKSON CHURCHWARD [down]
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SPANKING DISCUSSION BOARD [down]
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MORE MEMORIES OF CHILDHOOD SPANKINGS [down]
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Gauis Marius, the creator of Glory Bee, draws in
the tradition of mainstream children's comic
books of the 40's and 50's - where the child heroine
as often as not finds herself face down across an
adult lap getting her panties warmed in the final
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| "Not even this bibliography can contain every
book in which somebody gets a slap on the behind or a
threat of a slap or a spanking. I tried to include
those books with scenes which would appeal to somebody
as obsessed as I am. I had a slight prejudice towards
classics, Twain gets in for the Becky Thatcher episode
which probably wouldn't have merited mention if it had
been by a lesser writer. I am a purist, I tried to
steer away from what could be called beatings or
whippings of slappings rather than spankings. Like
most of us, I am a glutton for details, I want to read
about lowered panties, rolled up sleeves, kicking,
begging, and bright red bottoms."
[Below is just a small sample. There's lots more where these came from. - HP]
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SPANKING MEMORIES MESSAGE BOARD (closed)
| "I love spring time when it's
warm enough for my neighbors to open up their windows
and doors to the outside air. "Two weeks ago my next door neighbor spanked one of her kids. Since both kids are in the first and second grade I couldn't tell if it was the boy or the girl that was getting the spanking. But, for a good minute I strained to listen to someone's bottom getting tanned."
"when i was young, i got spanked often by my mother, it was normal back then. one time i got my sunday best messy after church, she pulled me to the bench in the park, lifted up my dress, pulled down my panties, and pulled me over [her] knee, then she spanked my bare bottom good and hard, i was 6 i think then, as i got older she used a hairbrush , but always bare botttom..." |

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Click here for selected passages from the previous, now-defunct Childhood Spanking Memories forum of the same name.
Click here for selected passages from the current forum.
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THE LIBRARY OF CONGRESS
(Thanks to
Jason for discovering these! -HP)
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Spanking at Home and at School [down]
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Ann, early in her career
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site contains fiction and a little non-fiction about
Male/Male discipline, ie. the spanking of boys, male
teens and adults by other males. These stories are in
all styles and cover the entire range of discipline
scenarios, from the use of belt, switch, paddle or
slipper at home, or cane, birch and tawse at school,
through judicial and military whippings to fun
spanking games and consensual S&M
relationships." However, some stories do feature
female spankers and even the occasional juvenile
female spankee. Exerpts follow:
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HARD TO FORGET SPANKINGS
Childhood spanking memories by Lynx.
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(If the above link doesn't work,
try this)
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"It
hurts and it's painful inside - it's like
breaking
your
bones." -7 y.o. girl
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Author Diana
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unspanked daughter
make cookies together.
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THANKS
BUT
NO SPANKS
Physical
punishment
only hurts kids, study argues
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Christian
Crusaders
Go to BattleOver Spanking
Tools
of
discipline horrify some of faithful
"The Rod" is designed give Christian
home schooled children very severe "faith based"spankings.
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By Rebecca When you made me bend over
When repeatedly the sound
When you made me hold you close
When each day that this
continued (You did it to Jesus.)
And the King will tell
them, Matthew 25:40
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OPEN LETTER TO
ROY LESSIN - AUTHOR OF "SPANKING: WHY, WHEN, HOW."
By
Beth F.
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Roy's daughter Lydia
was a
playmate of Beth's as
a child.
Please
Don't
Spank Or Slap Your Children
By Katharine O.

Katharine at age
10, with her brother.
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Suffer The Little Children
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Non-abusive
"Loving Spankings" Messed Me Up For Life
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| Tongue in cheek, the author writes, "I am nearly ashamed to admit it, but she actually struck us. Not once, but each time we had a mind of our own and did as we pleased. That poor belt was used more on our seats than it was to hold up Daddy's pants. Can you imagine someone actually hitting a child just because she disobeyed?" |

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SMART SPANK
(A semi-mirror site which closely copies Spank With Love)
| No other site on the web goes into such great detail explaining exactly how to give a child a spanking. For example, the author writes, "The pants can either be taken down to the ankles, to the knees (halfway down), or to just below the buttocks, although the latter is less advisable. (It obstructs the spanking "sit spot," see below, besides, taking the pants a bit lower than absolutely necessary increases the ritual aspect of the baring.) They can also be removed completely, then they won't be dangling somewhere. Pants are best taken down just before the child gets into position. For girls who wear dresses or skirts, the skirt can simply be turned up after the girl is over the parent's lap." |
| "Find an armless chair which, when you sit in it, your thigh is above the child's knee, ideally at about the middle of the child's thighs. Take the child's left wrist in your right hand and take him/her to your selected chair. Sit down, with the child on your right side. For this to work, you MUST spread your knees. The child's weight will be supported on your lap, and by spreading your knees, you gain stability. Transfer the child's wrist to your left hand and pull him/her over your lap. Pull him/her to your left, and lean, if you must. The child has to lean forward against your right thigh, and once you've pulled his/her center of gravity past your thigh, he/she will "trip" over your right thigh and instinctively will catch himself/herself with his/her right hand on your left thigh. He/she will now be lying across your lap, with his/her feet off the floor. Now, use your left hand to hold his/her upper body. The right hand, of course, is occupied with [slapping] the now positioned bottom." |
| "If you have ever played congas, bongos, tennis or squash, you will know what it means to keep your wrist flexible. Keep your four fingers together and relaxed, too. Note that it will be mainly your fingers that do the work, not your palm. Your thumb will not participate much, so you can move it a bit out of the way. Concentrate on where and how your four fingers make contact with the child's bottom." |

| This page contains a variety of links to soundfiles and fiction related to the prospanking views of the author, (who apparently doesn't worry about the "corrupting" influence of "absolute power" if it involves how he dominates his children, but who became very concerned as soon as the government took issue with the bruises on his daughter's behind.) Enjoy the links, but please, for your children's sakes, don't raise your kids his way... |
| Exerpt from Little House In The Big Woods
By Laura Ingalls Wilder: Aunt Lotty had gone, and Laura and Mary were tired and cross. They were at the woodpile, gathering a pan of chips to kindle the fire in the morning. They always hated to pick up chips, but every day they had to do it. Tonight they hated it more than ever. Laura grabbed the biggest chip, and Mary said: "I don't care. Aunt Lotty likes my hair best, anyway. Golden hair is lots prettier than brown." Laura's throat swelled tight, and she could not speak. She knew golden hair was prettier than brown. She couldn't speak, so she reached out quickly and slapped Mary's face. Then she heard Pa say, "Come here, Laura" She went slowly, dragging her feet. Pa was sitting just inside the door. He had seen her slap Mary. "You remember," Pa said, "I told you girls you must never strike each other." Laura began, "But Mary said-" "That makes no difference," said Pa, "It is what I say that you must mind." Then he took down a strap from the wall, and he whipped Laura with the strap. Laura sat on a chair in the corner and sobbed. When she stopped sobbing she sulked. The only thing in the whole world to be glad about was that Mary had to fill the chip pan all by herself. At last, when it was getting dark, Pa said again, "Come here, Laura." His voice was kind, and when Laura came he took her on his knee and hugged her close. She sat in the crook of his arm, her head against his shoulders and his long brown whiskers partly covering her eyes, and everything was all right again. |
| Exerpt from A
Washington Post story.
When he climbed the walnut staircase and turned to his left, Maria was waiting. The father told Maria to take her clothes off and prepare for her "strikes." There would be seven, two for each commandment she broke. The final strike would be spared because God says have mercy. "Get on your knees," he said, without raising his voice, "in a praying position." The little girl, who still wears pigtails, knelt beside her white canopy bed. "She had on her panties and training bra," her mother recalls. Her father lifted his belt and it came down on her seven times. She yelled and she covered her bottom to break the strikes, but her hands did no good to ease the pain. |
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Speaking
of her childhood, 22 year old Ruth writes,
"My mother is a very unusual
woman. When my brother and I were younger, she was
very strict. My mother had an attitude that we
never questioned. She wouldn’t tolerate any
misbehaving whatsoever from us. "When my mom said "No," I listened. Of course, every child has his moments when he pretends to rule the world and ignore Mom and Pops, but for the most part I obeyed my parents. My cousin Heather, who is only six months older than me lived in the same area when we were toddlers. When we would take our naps, our mothers would occasionally try to gain our cooperation with a piece of gum. They would put it on our pillows and say that we could eat it when we woke up. I always fell for this ruse and would go to sleep. Heather, on the other hand, would wait until they left the room and closed the door. She would immediately unwrap the gum and start chewing. "I went through a brief
period of rebellion, like many teenagers, and
resented my parents. I didn’t enjoy reading my
Bible before Saturday morning cartoons and getting
up early for church every Sunday. I tried to find
ways to bypass their system, by finding the
shortest chapter in the shortest book in the Bible
for my required daily Bible reading. I resented
the fact that I didn’t have more control over my
life. I was being forced to live as a Christian
and for a time, I felt like I hated it!
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Elsewhere
on the same website, Ruth's parents explain how they
believe spankings should be given:
"There is a practical reason for not using your hand to spank your children. By using a rod instead, you separate the discipline from the person of the giver. "The object of discipline is to change the child's attitude by giving them a foretaste of the potential terror and pain of eternal separation from God, which naturally result from rebellion and disobedience. My preference for utensils was to keep half a dozen wooden paint paddles (Free at the paint store) for our toddler sized children, for use on bare skin. If you are disciplining older children through clothing, you wil want to use a slender flexible rod several feet long, the traditional "switch." These are free and plentiful if you have trees close at hand. A switch should be no more than 1/4" thick so it will still sting. It must be flexible so it will not bruise or injure the child if it inadvertently comes into contact with the raised area of the spine, due to squirming or movement. "After the spanking, when a child has regained composure and stopped crying, it is important to reaffirm your love and affection and review the cause for discipline. Remind them that you discipline them because God requires it of you, not because you enjoy it. Some children may need a few minutes by themselves to regroup first. We insisted that our children cried softly and did not allow them to scream or make a scene when disciplined." Regarding when a child is too old for her parents to discipline her with spankings Ruth's parents write: "We used it until we no longer needed it. My wife thinks we didn't need to spank them after they were 8 years old, perhaps we might have threatened it once or twice when they [were in their] pre-teens. The object of discipline is to create a compliant attitude. It requires a measure of skill in application to develop a habit of habitual obedience in young children. We were diligent with our children when they were young and one result was that they responded well to our authority as they grew older. "If you haven't trained your children to habitual compliance then you may handicap yourself by putting the rod away too soon. Some teenagers may benefit from a good seat warming at times. The rod is appropriate whenever children display defiance, rebellion, or willful disobedience. We never made a conscious decision to stop using it, just found that a sharp reprimand worked as well with our children for sins of attitude as they grew older. We never told our kids they were too old for it either, we just didn't find it necessary :)" Ruth's parents write that she needed to be spanked more soundly as a child than her brother did: "My daughter had a much higher threshold of pain and she would laugh off a spanking that would bring her younger brother to tears immediately. We spanked our children until their attitude was changed from defiance to brokenness. A strong willed child may require a higher level of pain than you can safely produce using your hand which is one reason I don’t recommend the hand except as a convenience for immediate use with very young toddlers. You will find as your children grow older that a suitable spanking may produce lasting discomfort to your hand, particularly in the case of your wife. A suitable utensil produces the desired effect without resulting in inadvertent “punishment” to the parent! "As a rule, the act of disciplining a child for defiance, rebellion, or disrespect should be done in private. With such hostility on the part of western governments and societies, it is prudent to never spank in public. You should discipline each child separately so they can receive your full attention without the distraction of a nearby sibling. The other can wait their turn in another room. "You need not be concerned for making the discipline "fair" in the sense that one child may receive more frequent or harder spankings... God does not treat each of us the same when he disciplines us. The stubborn and rebellious are disciplined with more severity. He orders our experience so we experience appropriate consequences for our actions. It doesn't hurt to remind children that your job as parents is not be fair but to administer God's judgment without partiality or favoritism. "Some children will respond instantly to discipline and sweeten their attitudes without delay. However, strong willed children... may require some time to compose and gather their thoughts before the process of repentance is complete. So if necessary, you may give them a few minutes to cry alone and let them return to be welcomed back into fellowship with a hug and reassurance of love when they have settled. Usually they will return sweet in spirit, but if the first spanking wasn't sufficient and the wrong attitude continues then a second one can be administered, or a third or however many are required. Once they perceive that you will not yield until they obey they will not make such efforts to resist, but inconsistency or laziness in discipline will result in more trouble than the job done properly at the first. " In closing, a strong willed child makes an exceptional servant when they have learned to submit their lives to God. You can look forward to wonderful things from her in the future, but only if you succeed in bringing her into present obedience. Your goal should be to help her to submit her strong will to the mighty will of God." On yet another page of the site, Ruth's parents write: "If [your daughter] needs a spanking one hundred times a day, then discipline her one hundred times. "As to pulling away from a spanking, I don't think your children would pull away if they knew that the spanking would start over, every time they pulled away! Children are much more practical in these matters than we give them credit for. They know how to act when it regards their own best interest if we are not fooled by their antics. But they will look to see the determination in your eyes and test your resolve first. If you let them run away from the spanking you are teaching them that they are rewarded to disobey and that would is not a good lesson to result from a spanking so don't let them run away! "We normally retired to the bedroom to apply discipline, leaning them over the bed after they were over 2 years old. When they were toddlers we spanked on the spot at the place of disobedience, except when out of the home. We would occasionally make a trip to the automobile from a public place but this was not frequently required as we made sure that it would be remembered well so they knew when we threatened to make such a trip that it was to be avoided! "As far as resisting, if they did not cooperate, the first spanking was for the transgression. The next would be for not staying still for the spanking. And if they screamed and made a fuss they could also be spanked for the fuss as we required them to cry softly. We normally gave them a period to compose themselves before a special time of hugging and reassurance to remind them of the reasons for the discipline as well as assuring them of our forgiveness and affection." |
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"My
dear wife... was brought up by very strict Christian
parents. She was never spanked in anger and
always knew exactly why she and her siblings were
being spanked. I have tried to instill
these same procedures into our three children, a boy
9 years old, and two twin girls, 4 years
old. We always agreed on discipline methods
and started real spanking when our children
were less than 2 yrs old. We still have to
spank them fairly often but somewhat less now.
When we do it, is not just a love tap to the
bottom. Spankings need to be painful to
present a lesson. We don't think one swat on
the rear does any good... When spanking is
necessary, it should be done over the knee, bare
bottom and enough times to make an impact - one or
two for every year of the child's age.
... "For example, last Sunday afternoon Laura just disappeared from the yard and came back after two hours. We learned that she stayed in the comparative safety of our neighborhood, with some friend, but she got a spanking all the same, for breaking the promise she had made not to go away without telling us and for not obeying the rules." |
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was spanked with the hand until I reached my teen
years. On my thirteenth birthday, my mother presented
me with a strangely shaped package. I opened it to
find a wooden Ping-Pong paddle. On it was painted: Becca's
Very Own Spanking Paddle. My mother
insisted it hang in my room until I moved out.
"What position should a child be spanked in? My personal preference is over the knee (OTK). It usually works best if you are sitting in an armless chair. The child is taken and bent over your thighs, so their bottom is facing you. I prefer higher chairs because the child's legs and arms can't reach the floor, streching their skin and tenderizing it for a spanking. "Personally, I think most children today need a good sound bare bottomed spanking for their misbehavior. I know my three girls often do. There are many problems to spanking through clothes. First of all, through denim jeans, a child will barely feel your hand. You will need to use a hairbrush, which I feel is too harsh. Also, the severity of the spanking depends on whatever the child happens to be wearing, which is not very good. Parent's can also see the severity of their spankings. However, some parents might be uncomfortable taking down a child's underwear. Spanking through the underwear is almost as effective as barebottomed. The thin material provides much less protection, and the child will be subject to the same amount of pain." |
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bathroom!"
A few minutes later, I found her there. "Now, Haven," I began, "why are you getting this correction?" Her head hanging, she mumbled, "Because I went ahead and ate the Popsicle even though Grandmother told me not to." "Why was that wrong?" I persisted. "Because Grandmother is my authority and I need to obey her." I continued. "Why do you think she told you not to eat the Popsicle?" Haven stared at the floor. "Because we're going to have dinner soon and it might ruin my appetite." "Haven," I told her, "I'm going to need to spank you because Proverbs 23:13-14 says, 'Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you punish him with the rod, he will not die. Punish him with the rod and save his soul from death.' There may come a day when Grandmother tells you not to eat something because she knows it could make you sick. You must be in the habit of obeying her. Do you understand?" "Yes, ma'am," she said quietly. I beckoned her toward me, where I was seated on the toilet lid. "Now, lean over my lap." She bent over, submitting to my instruction. After I spanked her--eight times for her age--I invited her to sit on my lap. Cradling her in my arms, I said, "Haven, I love you and forgive you, but you need to ask Jesus to forgive you for not obeying Him." |
This is Haven,
who,
in the opinion of HandPrince, is much too cute to
spank...
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her younger sister, Clancy!
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"When
the time comes to apply the rod, take a deep breath,
relax, and pray, "Lord, make this a valuable
learning session. Cleanse my child of ill-temper and
rebellion. May I properly represent your cause in
this matter." No jerking around. No raised voice.
The child should be able to anticipate the coming
rod by your utterly calm and controlled spirit...
"Any spanking, to effectively reinforce instruction, must cause pain, but the most pain is on the surface of bare skin where the nerves are located. A surface sting will cause sufficient pain, with no injury or bruising. Select your instrument according to the child's size. For the under one year old, a little, ten- to twelve-inch long, willowy branch (striped of any knots that might break the skin) about one-eighth inch diameter is sufficient. Sometimes alternatives have to be sought. A one-foot ruler, or its equivalent in a paddle, is a sufficient alternative. For the larger child, a belt or larger tree branch is effective... "Some have asked, "But what if the child only screams louder, gets madder?"... Give him more of the same. On the bare legs or bottom, switch him eight or ten licks; then, while waiting for the pain to subside, speak calm words of rebuke. If the crying turns to a true, wounded, submissive whimper, you have conquered; he has submitted his will. If the crying is still defiant, protesting and other than a response to pain, spank him again." |
| "Never spank a child when angry. Make sure the child knows and understands what they did that was wrong and why they are being corrected. Do not surprise the child. Make it a planned event and something you do as a parent that is intentional and well thought out. Be calm and in control of yourself and emotions. Never spank a child anywhere but on the glutemus maximus muscles (buttocks, rear end). Use a paddle of smooth wood that is not too thick and has a handle designed to fit your hand so it won't slip. Demand and expect instant obedience. Spank the child on the bare bottom if possible. There is usually enough power in the snap of an adults wrist to administer a spank that will not be forgotten soon. You do not have to take a full swing like with a tennis racket. Make sure their hands are out of the way. Have them bend over your knee or against a table or chair. Let the number of spanks be done one at a time and deliberately, not fast and furious. Let them “soak in” one at a time. The object is to SAFELY inflict enough pain so the child will decide they will not commit the crime again." |
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be carried out in private to focus the attention of
the child on the parent and to eliminate any other
influences (not to mention the threat of hotline
calls if you discipline in public). The reason for
the spanking must be clarified so that the child
understands exactly why he is about to experience
pain..."
"For the spanking itself the child must be put in a good physical posture for the act. Smaller children can be laid across the knees or lap. Older children could be told to lay over a chair or the edge of the bed. Part of the child's duty in receiving the discipline is to cooperate with the process and to assume the necessary position without complaint. "Speaking of complaint, the child must have an attitude of submission during the process. He should not be allowed to protest or resist your attempt to put him over you lap. He must have a submissive attitude in accepting the need for discipline and receive it willingly. His carrying on and fighting you would become another offense that requires another spanking..." "A spanking is supposed to hurt! Mere tapping with the rod, or spanking through layers of clothing and diapers, will not be effective. Your aim should be to spank until you elicit a cry of repentance from the child. Some children will begin crying before the rod even makes contact with their back sides, but it is not mere tears that you are after. Other children will respond to the blows with the rod by crying out in protest or anger, but this is definitely not what you are after. This response must be distinguished from a cry that signals the child is yielding his will and succumbing to the pain. Perhaps this sounds cruel, but what do you think is the point of spanking?! If it is not a token gesture, a symbolic event, then we must press on with the infliction of real pain, despite our sensibilities." |
| James Lyons of the Grace
Baptist Church of Columbus, Georgia, explains how he
disciplined his two daughters when they were growing
up:
"Applying the board of education to the seat of learning. Since I am right-handed, I would have the child sitting on my right knee. At this point, I would lay the child forward over my left knee so that his or her legs were trapped between my legs, with my left hand I could hold down the child's upper body, and this would leave the child s natural padding as a raised target for my right palm. The child s ability to squirm was very limited by this arrangement, and I could deal with business swiftly and without the nuisance of chasing a Jack-in-the-Box or Jill-in-the-Box... "Sometimes when a child is about to be spanked, he or she will start to cry loudly or yell before the first stroke has even fallen... If I bent a child over and she started screaming, I would haul her back up, glare into her eyes and say real low, "Just what do you think you are doing? You stop that right now, you hear? Do you need two spankings? All right, then, you be quiet!" Then I would bend her back down and continue. We wanted our children to learn to accept correction with dignity... "[T]he most important thing to focus on during the chastening itself is the surrendering of the child s will. No spanking is truly finished, whatever tool is employed, until the will of the child gives in. Sometimes fair minded parents will say things like, "Now for this kind of an offense, you will get three licks with the paddle, and for that kind of an offense you will get five " and so on. Now it may be that in a school setting where a large number of diverse individuals are being managed, some sort of objective formula like this would be necessary. But I do not believe that this is the ideal way of administering discipline to one s own children. Your purpose should be for the child s will to submit, and the number of licks it takes to accomplish that is ultimately up to the child... "I remember once when our strongest willed daughter was undergoing the disciplinary exercise. After giving her what I had supposed was an adequate dose, I hoisted her up ready to launch into the comforting half of the ordeal. But before I could begin, she started complaining about her spanking in a way that betrayed a disturbing lack of repentance. I immediately bent her right back down and addressed her complaint in the appropriate manner! "When you let the child up from the spanking, turn her around and set her on your other knee. There is a subliminal symbolism in this, like moving a tassel. It says that a watershed has been crossed, the child has come through the lesson, and now she is facing a new direction, she is going the other way. It's almost like baptism the old child she used to be before bending down under the baptism of fire is buried and gone, and a new child, a good and obedient child has been resurrected in her place. This serves to divorce the child from that naughty person she felt like a moment ago.
"Hug
her close to you for a moment and let her cry, and
just comfort her with your warmth as you kiss her
hair and pat or rub her back and rock her back and
forth until she subsides a bit. Hold some toilet
paper to her nose, or if the child is older, just
give it to her, and let her blow. Then say
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IN DEFENSE OF BIBLICAL CHASTISEMENT (down)
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"It
would be better to administer more licks that are
less forceful than to administer few licks that hurt
severely. It is much more effective to administer
chastisement or punishment in a slow thoughtful
fashion. Our goal is to cause the child to
voluntarily surrender his will. We want to impress
upon him the severity of his disobedience. It takes
time and thoughtfulness for the child to come to
repentance. I have told a child I was going to give
him 10 licks. I count out loud as I go. After about
three licks, leaving him in his position, I would
stop and remind him what this is all about. I would
continue slowly, still counting, stop again and tell
him that I know it hurts and I wish I didn’t have to
do it but that it is for his own good. Then I would
continue slowly. Pretending to forget the count, I
would again stop at about eight and ask him the
number. Have him subtract eight from ten, (a little
homeschooling) and continue with the final two
licks. Then I would have him stand in front of me
and ask him why he got the spanking.
"Children fight back because they think they have a chance of forestalling the spanking. First make sure the child never gains anything by fleeing. Second, cause the child to understand that he is further hurting himself by resisting. Slow down, stay calm. If you are in a frenzy, the child will respond in kind. If a child flees, don’t chase him. Wait and allow time for the tension to go out of the air. Slowly pursue him, explaining that he cannot win. If it takes a long time, that’s fine. Go to his hiding place and laugh at his frail attempts. Explain that if it takes fourteen days to bring him to justice, he will be brought to justice. Patience. Calm. Dignity. Wait until he calms down in the back of the closet, or under the bed, and as you sit outside, or just beyond him, quietly tell him that you are coming to give him his ten licks, but that since he has fled, he is now going to get one extra lick. Wait several minutes for him to calm down and listen with reason, and ask him how much ten plus one is. “That’s right, eleven. Would you rather have 10 licks or 11?” He answers “10.” Then tell him that it is too late to get just 10, but if he doesn’t come out immediately you will raise it to 12. He must have calmed down for him to make a rational choice. If not, then wait a little longer. Keep this up until you raise the stakes to about twenty licks, explaining to him that when you get to 20 licks you are coming after him. If he is locked in his room, explain that you will unlock the door. There is no escape. Be calm, non-threatening in tone. Just quiet dignity. Think of yourself as a high-ranking government official in charge of negotiations. Know that in the end you will win." |
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"Many
people gasp when they hear 'Yes, we spank our
children... [S]ometimes there's just no
substitute for a bare butt, over the knee, hand (or
brush) spanking. Now, you can turn
your noses up at what we use for discipline all you
want. But we know what works, and our methods keep
the best peace in this household. It's systematic,
loving, flexable, and efficient.
"Our method of spanking is simple. We have a set pattern we follow most times. Usually we send them to their room to wait. For our children, waiting is effective, because it gives them time to realize that they made a no no. Then they are called to the room where they are to be punished, and lectured. We ask them what they did wrong, and ask why they did it. At this time, there is no way they are getting out of it, but we let them plead their case anyway (we never lead them to believe they can get out of it, only allow them the opportunity to possibly reduce their sentance by letting them explain). We also help them realize that life brings consequences, whether you steal from a store, fail to pay a traffic ticket, or skip paying your taxes. Then it's o.t.k., and on with the punishment. Afterwards, they are sent to their room for a while (usually an hour) and then we come back and comfort them with hugs and words of love, reassuring them we only punish them because we wish to teach them right from wrong, and to encourage them to not partake in the punishable behavior again." |
Daughters - Ellen and
Michelle.
DOMESTIC DISCIPLINE: THE BOOK (down)
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"Young
children need not be spanked very hard to 'get their
attention' and help them see the error of their
ways. A parent or guardian can use their open hand
to spank kids on their bare buttocks and produce
“stinging pain” without the need to spank them in an
intense manner. If you fail to administer these very
basic entry-level spankings while your children are
young, you will be sorry when you see your beautiful
toddler becomes a total brat within a few short
years.
"As children become older you may find it necessary to use an implement like a belt, hair brush or paddle to do an effective job of spanking them. I recommend younger children (preteens) be spanked “bare butt” as a safety factor so you can monitor any marks you may create during the spanking process. Some kids can endure a lot of pain and may require a more intense spanking than others. This is why I WON’T tell you how long, or how hard, to spank them. If you spank kids fully clothed, you will most likely spank them too hard and risk injuring them. They may not even feel any pain due to the thick clothing and mock your attempt to discipline them... "An older child or teenager can be spanked “bare butt” without exposing private parts of the body, like the genital area. Offenders in this age group should be spanked with some type of implement, as the human hand is not a practical instrument to use on the backside of an adult. If you spank hard enough to do the job you may well actually do physical damage to your hand. If you use an implement carefully you can achieve the desired results without becoming abusive in any manner. "One of the primary reasons parents and guardians should be the primary people to administer discipline is they KNOW their children. They can easily tell when enough is enough, and also when to increase the intensity and the duration of a spanking session. Spanking should be conducted in a prompt and business like manner, without a lot of discussion and ceremony. The clothing should be adjusted enough to expose the buttocks area and the spanking should begin immediately. Brisk applications of pain will quickly drive away any erotic overtones that may be encouraged if discipline becomes a long and drawn out game. A firm spanking will deter future offenses if conducted properly." |
OUR GOD IS AN INFINITE GOD (down)
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"In
His wonderful imagination, He has placed within the
very spanking itself a potential of an exciting,
holy bond of love between the one being so punished,
and the one to whom He has delegated His authority.
Please note that I said POTENTIAL. This glorious
encounter with His love does not happen
automatically. The one being chastised and the
person in authority must cooperate with the abundant
graces which our Heavenly Father is offering....
"If the repentant child will accept, welcome, and embrace a spanking from the parent, constructive ripples will emanate. The goodness in the heart of this repentant child will be a channel for God's love to flow, reaching people that might not otherwise be reached... "Once the child has accepted the spanking, the parent must pour out her love and tenderness upon him, before, during (even the spanking is highly painful), and after the spanking. Even with an ideal heart of contrition, the child may be fearing, "How can I possibly endure this pain?" The parent must let the child know that she will tenderly help him (holding his hand? embracing his back with the free hand?) through this ordeal. The parent must also communicate gratitude for the child's now unselfish repentance, as well as tender love regarding the pain in which he is engulfed. Thus, the child loses himself in penitentially embracing the spanking, and the parent envelops the child in indescribable tenderness." |
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"I
came on the scene not long after the Depression and
World War II. As a boy, I was well acquainted with,
as my mother called it, the "rod of correction."
From her perspective, there was nothing more fitting
for misbehavior than the stern application of the
leather on a sassy boy bottom. If nothing else, I
can attest, the experience grabs your attention --
while altering the complection of your posterior!"
"[W]e have to make the price of disobedience so high the child will be left thinking about it for a long time. Hebrews 12:11, "No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful." Firmly and dramatically: but not abusively. SPANK them, but never overdo it or you may harm the gluteal muscle, underneath. We are absolutely opposed to child abuse. In fact, these days even the laws are "opposed" to child abuse, (It has taken a while). Biblical discipline is training in righteousness, not abuse. Always has been. "On small children don't overdo it. So how about a flyswatter on the skin? The epidermis quickly heals, but the memory (and the lesson) remains forever." |
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Let
it be clearly understood that spanking is not the
"least desired" of the various methods of
punishment, but the BEST method, one which is
God-given. Spanking should NEVER be considered a
"last resort" when all has failed....
But spanking should NEVER be done in anger! It should ALWAYS be done in love. The child psychologists have been unable to reconcile themselves to the conception that any parent is capable of punishing his child in love! Spanking is NOT an extreme as a "last resort’ but is the best method of positive teaching, the God-given, Divinely inspired method, the way that really works!... Generally it is going to be better to spank with your own hand. That way, you can feel it, too, and you will be even surer you are not overdoing it. Many parents utilize a small switch, which will sharply sting, but never break the skin or bruise. As the author already quoted said, "Spanking or nettling small legs with appropriately small switches are only two of the methods that may be used."... An extremely effective implement is one of the lighter ping pong paddles, applied to the bare buttocks. (This I know from personal experience!) With children from two to six or eight years, many parents use the father’s belt. However, caution should be used in applying a belt. Certainly the end with the buckle, or any belt that has metal affixed to the portion to be used should NEVER be applied to a child... The old-fashioned idea of the "hair brush" is more mythical than factual, and with today’s modern plastic hair brushes and the like, should never be used. The place to punish a child is squarely on the buttocks! As has already been covered, very high on the sides of the thighs, or with a small switch, on the backs of the legs, would be equally as appropriate. HOWEVER, this must be wisely decided depending upon the severity of the punishment, and the implement used! Be extremely careful if punishing with a belt that only the shortest portion of the belt is used, and that is not allowed to wrap around the child’s body, or in any way run the risk of striking so as to injure or cause severe pain. Use common sense - punish your child in LOVE - calmly - not in the heat of emotion and you need not fear "overpunishment."... To be effective, spanking should always be prompt! Frequently, because of "embarrassment" in the presence of friends, being in a public place, driving in a car, or other difficulty which seems to make the immediate application of punishment somewhat problematic, parents will defer punishment until a later time. This should never be done! ... Parents who say "Am I going to have to give you a spanking?" are parents who ALWAYS speak more than once. Have you been using these phrases? Do you speak more than ONCE to your children? Speak to your child once! Then, if disobedience follows, IMMEDIATELY apply the proper punishment! It is only in this way that punishment can be truly effective! It is truly amazing the degree to which a child’s hearing may be sharpened by only speaking ONCE, firmly, and sharply! Thousands of parents seem to be in blissful ignorance of the fact their children could be trained to literally "jump at the snap of their fingers" if they cared to use the diligence to gain this end. You may have heard of the children who were startled into humble quietude by the mere "clearing of the throat" of their father as a warning. You may have heard of other children who could have been silenced with a mere look.... If you want your child for something, simply say, "Johnnie, come here!" if the child ignores you, wait just a moment or two, then arise from your chair, calmly bare the child’s bottom and apply about five or six good sharp swats! If Johnnie pretends he "didn’t hear you!" and tearfully tells you he didn’t realize you were calling him - you may be positively assured that if you explain the reason why he is being spanked, he WILL hear you the next time!... You, as a parent, should begin to speak to your child only once! Say, "Eat your dinner." And then, if, after a few moments, the child is still toying with his food, showing disinterest, or daydreaming - calmly take him down from the dinner table, into another room, lower his pants and give him a good effective spanking! Allow him to remain in his room until the crying has completely subsided, and until he is settled down again, and then firmly place him on his chair and say, "Eat your dinner!" this time, you may be fully persuaded, the chances are far more likely that he is going to finish his dinner... Spanking should be, if properly utilized, the most positive method of child rearing there is. With the proper, kind and discerning TEACHING of the RIGHT action, both before and after the spanking, this gives a positive and negative side to the spanking procedure which will be lastingly beneficial.... Most of the time, your child is going to disobey "accidentally." He will disobey "accidentally." He will disobey through carelessness, thoughtlessness, forgetfulness, or simply through a lack of understanding what is expected of him. However - don’t be deceived! There are many occasions when a child will DELIBERATELY disobey - and needs to be spanked accordingly! Let your child know you believe in his underlying good intent! Frequently, the young boy and girl will say, quite tearfully, "I didn’t mean to!" you should answer, "Of course you didn’t MEAN to!" Explain to the child how you "understood" that they did it merely through carelessness or forgetfulness. But say "had I thought you would have done such a deed on purpose I would have punished you much more severely! I know and understand that you wouldn’t have done this deliberately - TRYING to be disobedient - but because I love you, I must impress upon you that you should never do this through forgetfulness or careless again!" Then, when the tears have subsided after a spanking, LOVE your children - take them up and show them some affectionn! NEVER allow the child to run from the one parent who has done the punishing to the other for the loving and the affection - but ALWAYS make sure the child is loved, first of all by the parent who has done the punishing!
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SPANKING YOUNG CHILDREN (down)
| "I started spanking my kids around the age of two. I do not think this was too early. I spanked like my mother did. She would use her hand when we were under five or so. She always spanked bare. Three swats with the open hand delivered very quickly and in the same place. She said years later that she did it this way to hurt alot without a lot of spanks." |
| "My children have been grown now for some time. I would like to say that [they] are very successful professionals now. I only spanked for blatant disobedience and stopped by the time they were twelve. I found that spanking my daughters was quite... well exciting. I remember spanking them before bed and after their baths. Although it has been fifteen years I look back fondly to having an eight year old girl over my knee. To bed they usually wore a tee shirt and panties. I only spanked a few times bare." |
| "I believe that traditional, old fashioned loving spankings have their place in proper childrearing, but only if done with wisdom and moderation for the child's own good. Whenever my daughter became disobedient or defiant as a child, she earned herself a brief series of sharp, stinging slaps on her bare buttocks. This only lasted a few seconds, and never left a bruise, only a pink bottom and abundant tears. Afterwards she received comfort and reassurance of my love. I found this method of discipline very effective with my child. In our home, proper instruction, a wholesome Christian atmosphere, and a wholesome fear of a spanking, kept her well behaved most of the time." |
| "I have two daughters, both of whom are being raised in a Christian home with parents who believe in providing guidance and discipline as needed. That can mean anything from a gentle verbal reminder to a traditional spanking... I use a wooden hairbrush when special circumstances warrant it, but I usually use my hand. I spank bare bottom; my husband spanks over panties... Our daughters are 8 and 11. I recently had to spank the younger girl because she got into a shoving match at school. I took her over my knee and spanked her bare bottom until it was bright pink. |
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| "I am a strong believer in establishing in a child a sense of fear and respect of her parents, as well as love. In my daughter's case, she has learned that I mean business when I tell her not to do something and she disobeys, and with time, she has become overall a wonderful well-behaved, polite child (so far). I feared my own father as I grew up, and he rarely spanked me, but I knew when he did, I had really transgressed. I cannot thank him enough now for instilling in me a sense of fear and respect of him as my parent. Many parents don't understand this, but as parents, it is our duty to command the obedience of our children. It can be done in a very loving manner, not despite an occasional spanking, but because we choose to discipline with a spanking when necessary. When I pick up my daughter at school, and she runs to my arms with a huge smile, it is impossible for me to believe I am somehow warping her mind or inflicting psychological conditioning that it is OK to hit people, except when it is done very gently and carefully, and only when necessary, in the first few years of life." "When my girl was little, the shoe stores gave out balloons on plasticised rope-sticks. Those were great as a rod. Very flexible, not too thick, and they didn't get brittle with age. My second choice was an appropriately sized branch from a tree. Do file off the rough places, though....A rod will never leave any lasting injuries, no matter how hard you hit with it (as long as you only hit on the fleshy part of the buttocks.) " ' "If your head thinks up mischief, your bottom's going to pay for it." "A hard head makes a soft behind." I will say, Mom's hairbrush actually hurt worse than Dad's belt.' "Too often, I see parents who refuse to spank resort instead to bribing, begging, screaming, empty threats, or ineffectively rendered 'time-outs.' None of that happens in our house. A line is crossed, a controlled spanking is rendered, there are hugs all around and we move on. In fact this consistency means my kids get the message fast - and spankings quickly become relatively infrequent for each child." "I have spanked both my children when it is warranted and it doesn't matter the time or place. They know they are never safe from punishment and they know it. In a restaurant a few years back, I grabbed my misbehaving child and took him to the car for an old-fashioned spanking. On other occasions, I have told the waitstaff to make the order "to go" and left the restaurant. I have zero tolerance for misbehavior in my children in public places. Two summers ago, I was taking my kids for a day at the beach (60 miles away), we were just getting there when they started fighting and misbehaving in the car. I stopped the car, spanked the both of them and drove 60 miles home where they spent the rest of the day sorting laundry, mowing the grass, cleaning the kitchen, etc." "Mine, too, got spanked. I firmly believe that humans are animals. If you don't train them, you have wild animals. I didn't publicly humiliate them, if misbehaving in public, I took them to the restroom to paddle them." "I nearly always carry a wooden spoon in my purse. If my daughter acts up ... I quietly show her my 'little friend.' Just the sight of it makes her stop what she is doing and behave herself. In the beginning she thought I wouldn't use it in public. Wrong. We'd either go to a dressing room or a bathroom and I'd have her get reacquainted with my 'little friend.' " "The worst whipping I ever got as a kid was from the man across the street (I accidently shot him in the nose with a rubber tipped dart gun when he had told me several times not to point it at anything I did not intend to shoot. He was a prolific gun collector and was trying to teach me gun safety). I went home and told my mom expecting her to give him hell. She took me by the hand, took me back over there and whoopped me in front of him." "My daughter at 11 years of age saw the neighbor boy successfully threaten his mother with Children's Protective Services if she spanked him, so she decided to try the same thing with her mother. My wife told her, 'Go ahead. You can call right after I beat your ass. Hope you like your new home.' She never threatened again." "My great-grandmother was practically a saint, and she beat my @ss on more than one occasion with a mulberry switch I had to cut myself. And God forbid I came back with one too small. I can honestly say that I deserved every one of them. My father used the belt, and my elementary school principal, middle school principal, and high school principal all used a wooden paddle the size of a cricket bat." "My mom spanked me with a hairbrush, when I was 7 years old. Should I sue her?" "My mom used to break wooden spoons over my butt. When she got tired of wasting those, the hairbrush became the tool of choice. (and no-there was nothing wrong with it- I deserved it!)" "There are parents who would snatch the child up... take a belt, open hand, paddle, or whatever, and "spank" the child until the child cannot draw a breath -- having expelled it all in a scream of pain and shock -- and keep whipping or "spanking" long after that. The child cannot draw a normal breath for many minutes without involuntary sobbing spasms." "Define in advance unacceptble behavior(Ok you can't think of everything). When the line is crossed tell the perp what he has done, and that you will see him in his room in a few hours to administer the punishment. The waiting is the worst part... At the appointed time enter the perp's room, and give a long long lecture about why he shouldn't do that. Then say the magic words "this hurts me more than you" (kids hate that) Then spank with a belt or some pliable thing, not your hand(can injure). Remember, it's not the pain, but the humiliation and stewing that gets em." &nbs |